Has anyone else had to come to accept situation where people with a diagnosis consistently deny it and go out of thrir way consistently prove it is wrong by doing risky things as if they were 20 years younger?
I feel like I need to radically accept that this is my parents' choice. They are 80 and have always been v stuck in their ways. My dad has the diagnosis but I suspect my mum may have similar issues and has always v emotionally dependent on dad . They are both 80 and not even accepting they are getting old. For my mum, she has the solutiom to make more demands on dad but that is not wise in the long run. She has mobility issues but refuses to use her frame or mobility scooter, asthma but wont use her inhaler and hearing probs (she does wear hearing aids but I suspect there is a memory issue( and has always had high anxiety and cannot distract herself until the problem is fixed. She refuses to go to the doctors about any of these issues.
They have been told to stop driving after an accident which caused no injuries but wrote the car off. But they wont use buses or taxis and then get miserable about not going out. But even the accidemt has not helped them self reflect. They do go to dementia support groups but dismiss all the advice on the basis that the people talk down to them.
It has taken me a year but we have finally got the lpas off. I dont want to stop them doing things but ideally would like to put a safety net under them. But they wont let me and my brother into their planning.
After much despair and energy trying to make suggestions gor tiny adjustments either gently or assertively , I have decided to back off. What will be will be and it is their lives and their choice
If anyone else has had this, I would be grateful for any tips
I feel like I need to radically accept that this is my parents' choice. They are 80 and have always been v stuck in their ways. My dad has the diagnosis but I suspect my mum may have similar issues and has always v emotionally dependent on dad . They are both 80 and not even accepting they are getting old. For my mum, she has the solutiom to make more demands on dad but that is not wise in the long run. She has mobility issues but refuses to use her frame or mobility scooter, asthma but wont use her inhaler and hearing probs (she does wear hearing aids but I suspect there is a memory issue( and has always had high anxiety and cannot distract herself until the problem is fixed. She refuses to go to the doctors about any of these issues.
They have been told to stop driving after an accident which caused no injuries but wrote the car off. But they wont use buses or taxis and then get miserable about not going out. But even the accidemt has not helped them self reflect. They do go to dementia support groups but dismiss all the advice on the basis that the people talk down to them.
It has taken me a year but we have finally got the lpas off. I dont want to stop them doing things but ideally would like to put a safety net under them. But they wont let me and my brother into their planning.
After much despair and energy trying to make suggestions gor tiny adjustments either gently or assertively , I have decided to back off. What will be will be and it is their lives and their choice
If anyone else has had this, I would be grateful for any tips