Hello
@sunshine chrissy and
@jay6 - well done Chrissy for seeing it through and admitting to yourself that he’s in the right place, safe and with people who know all about his condition. You can put aside the burden of being the carer and appreciate your life without feeling guilty.
You are crying for the loss of the person you used to know and love - that’s what we know dementia does, takes the personality and leaves a very changed and difficult person behind. It’s a good thing to cry, let the grief out, you and your family.
Appreciate the time you have now, not having to be “the carer”. You have given it your best shot and have been sensible in admitting that now others can take over. No room for guilt.
I am in the same position as you were but with no hope of respite as yet. It’s an awful place to be - my husband of 48 years is gone and I am sad for the person he used to be and the good times we had, not about what he has become.
It sounds like your family are loving and supportive to both of you - best wishes to you all xx