Hi
My name is Paul and my stepfather has dementia and is in a care home, they look after him very well and seems happy and settled, all good so far
He has trouble remembering things and has a very narrow conversation pattern
He no longer drives and his licence has been revoked, he persistently ask for his car and wants to go and get it.
I've told him he is unable to drive and has to apply for his licence and retake his test and I will help him with this and have started with the highway code
Of course there is no chance of him ever driving again, but this gives him hope, it makes him smile, I tell him it will b hard, then he forgets and we start all over again, I'm happy to continue this way and just kicking the can down the road to appease him speak to him on the phone twice a day and visit him 3 times a week,
My mum, his wife, my sister and other family members who never visit are fed up with this process even though they have little engagement with him and frankly can't be bothered, they want to tell him he gas dementia, cannot and won't ever drive again and want to tell him some other harsh facts so they feel better
I continually decline to say these things even though some are true, as this will upset him and he won't remember in a couple of days
This is starting to affect my relationship with my family, is there any advice, I'm the only one that visits and starting g to doubt myself
My name is Paul and my stepfather has dementia and is in a care home, they look after him very well and seems happy and settled, all good so far
He has trouble remembering things and has a very narrow conversation pattern
He no longer drives and his licence has been revoked, he persistently ask for his car and wants to go and get it.
I've told him he is unable to drive and has to apply for his licence and retake his test and I will help him with this and have started with the highway code
Of course there is no chance of him ever driving again, but this gives him hope, it makes him smile, I tell him it will b hard, then he forgets and we start all over again, I'm happy to continue this way and just kicking the can down the road to appease him speak to him on the phone twice a day and visit him 3 times a week,
My mum, his wife, my sister and other family members who never visit are fed up with this process even though they have little engagement with him and frankly can't be bothered, they want to tell him he gas dementia, cannot and won't ever drive again and want to tell him some other harsh facts so they feel better
I continually decline to say these things even though some are true, as this will upset him and he won't remember in a couple of days
This is starting to affect my relationship with my family, is there any advice, I'm the only one that visits and starting g to doubt myself