So is this it...?

Discussion in 'End of life care' started by DesperateofDevon, Oct 14, 2019.

  1. TNJJ

    TNJJ Registered User

    May 7, 2019
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    Bless you! That had me smiling and crying..Love to you and your family..((( hugs))) Tracey X
     
  2. Dimpsy

    Dimpsy Registered User

    Sep 2, 2019
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    You are a force of nature @DesperateofDevon, here's to Peter, may he rest in peace and I'm raising my mug of camomile tea to you for your stubbornness, hanging in there when others would have given in, positivity and sheer passion for making life the best possible for your loved ones. Slainte!
     
  3. annielou

    annielou Registered User

    Sep 27, 2019
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    Lots of love, your dad sounds as amazing as you do x
     
  4. Tea and. toast

    Tea and. toast Registered User

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    Some Bowl of Beauty Peonies for you to Desperate of Devon. I shall raise a glass of Proper Job beer from near your part of the world, to your wonderful Dad who was cared for by an amazing daughter. Take care.x
     
  5. Bunpoots

    Bunpoots Volunteer Host

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    I'll be raising a glass to your dad and mine too who died this Sunday last year x
     
  6. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

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  7. Bunpoots

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  8. anxious annie

    anxious annie Registered User

    Jan 2, 2019
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    I've just caught up with reading as have been away for a few days. Sending love and hugs and wishing you strength in the days ahead xx
     
  9. Fishgirl

    Fishgirl Registered User

    Sep 9, 2019
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    Well I’ll have to make do with a wine glass full of blackcurrent cordial:( and a bit of make believe, but here’s to both of them flying high.xxxx
     
  10. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
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    A toast to all our loved ones touched by dementia & to those who love & care xx
     
  11. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
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    Thank you everyone, the emotional rollercoaster of tears & laughter is exhausting. Formalities begin tomorrow,

    I’m an emotional 5 hour clock, daughter & OH can predict next bout of tears!! ( so pleased to oblige!!)

    Have picked out photos as am sure that I’m going to hit that exhaustion wall very soon.
    The love & support on TP has kept me sane
    Thank you
    Hoping that I’ll be able to return that support in the near future
    Xx
     
  12. jugglingmum

    jugglingmum Registered User

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    So sorry to hear this, but so glad your dad is pain free.

    You fought bravely for your dad and did him proud xxx

    (not been on TP much the last few days so only just seen this)
     
  13. Bunpoots

    Bunpoots Volunteer Host

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    Absolutely!
     
  14. Moggymad

    Moggymad Registered User

    May 12, 2017
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    Take your time @DesperateofDevon just post as & when ready. I found to start with I was very clear thinking for a few days, then whoosh complete mush. I didn't even get dressed some days. Like you say you hit a wall. Grief is very strange its like being in a car crash but with no visible injuries but inside you're all broken up. Time will heal. Sending big hugs & lots of support. X
     
  15. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
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    Very eloquently put, & on the button.
    Had a lovely friend of Dads just ring & im still smiling from the tales of exploits that I’d forgotten.

    I really was a Daddy’s girl, my Dads little shadow - usually covered in grease taking things apart with him or his companion on trips to help or visit friends or family.

    my poor Mum was well & truly ousted during my waking hours of childhood!

    It makes me appreciate her generosity in allowing Dad to be close by to me this past year. I’m actually appreciating Mums situation more.

    I’m determined to not have PJ days but do something that I would have talked to Dad about, however mundane or trivial!
    My garden will be well tended, & I’m looking for wildlife & taking a moment to do so. Simple pleasures that bring. joy
    Xx
     
  16. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

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    Xxx
     
  17. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

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    Xxx
     
  18. Dimpsy

    Dimpsy Registered User

    Sep 2, 2019
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    Have a scout around your garden @DesperateofDevon, I've spotted daffodil greenery poking through already in sheltered spots; the thought of spring on the way gets me through the dreary, dark days of winter.
     
  19. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
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    The dogwood is the most amazing colour
    X
     
  20. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
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    Who knew so much paperwork so many processes existed related to someone’s passing!

    I am handing the executorship over to the lovely solicitor who sorted out the LPA. I’m done with forms etc & am going to just be the daughter.

    the LPA has made things so much easier, but still ...
    hoping Dad will be repatriated today xx
     

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