So is this it...?

Discussion in 'End of life care' started by DesperateofDevon, Oct 14, 2019.

  1. Tea and. toast

    Tea and. toast Registered User

    May 8, 2019
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    Thinking of you and sending a hug. x
     
  2. Andrew_McP

    Andrew_McP Registered User

    Mar 2, 2016
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    I'm sorry for your loss, but happy your father is finally free of this miserable curse. May you soon find peace with his passing.
     
  3. Bunpoots

    Bunpoots Volunteer Host

    Apr 1, 2016
    3,601
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    I'm relieved your poor dad's suffering is finally over but I'm sorry for you Claire.

    Take care now.

    Anne x
     
  4. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    70,086
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    It`s all over now @DesperateofDevon. May your dad rest in peace and may you find peace too.
     
  5. Bikerbeth

    Bikerbeth Registered User

    Feb 11, 2019
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    #385 Bikerbeth, Dec 14, 2019
    Last edited: Dec 14, 2019
    I am glad that your Dad got his wings and is now painfree. My heart goes to you and your family at this sad time. May you find strength and peace. Take care Claire
     
  6. Splashing About

    Splashing About Registered User

    Oct 20, 2019
    346
    Claire again I’ve only just seen this. What a horrible time. I’m glad your Dad’s suffering is over. I also recognise that you are in a new stage of adjustment of emotions. Be kind to yourself. Xxxx
     
  7. Palerider

    Palerider Registered User

    Aug 9, 2015
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    I'm so sorry to hear your lovely dad now has his wings, but he is free of this cruel world now. My sympathies and hoping you find a new peace in your life
     
  8. Fishgirl

    Fishgirl Registered User

    Sep 9, 2019
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    So Sorry, you did your very best for him, sending (((((((((((hugs))))))))))xxx
     
  9. Woohoo

    Woohoo Registered User

    Apr 30, 2019
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    South East
    I’m so sorry Claire , sending you my condolences and hoping you can find that peace that you rightly deserve. Sending huge hugs. X
     
  10. Sarasa

    Sarasa Registered User

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  11. Moggymad

    Moggymad Registered User

    May 12, 2017
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    I am sorry for your loss @DesperateofDevon. However much you want the suffering to end, I found there's still a part of you that doesn't want to let go. Please be very gentle with yourself now. Xx
     
  12. Pete1

    Pete1 Registered User

    Jul 16, 2019
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    Oh Claire, the end of the dementia journey. You and your family fought tooth and nail for your Dad and did everything you could. He is now at peace. You can now mourn for your Dad and try to forget the traumas of the past few months, put them away, lock the box and throw away the key. All the best to you and your family.
     
  13. Kikki21

    Kikki21 Registered User

    Feb 27, 2016
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    Oh Claire @DesperateofDevon i’m so sorry for you & your family & how you all fought so hard for your dad’s care.
    I’m so relieved that your dad gained his wings relatively quickly & did not linger & that he now rests in peace. Big hugs xxxxx
     
  14. Philbo

    Philbo Registered User

    Feb 28, 2017
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    Kent
    My heart goes out to you and all your family. I am sure that your dad is flying high already, free from this awful disease.

    Reading your posts, it's obvious that nobody could have tried harder to fight your dad's corner - you have been a wonderful daughter. It is shameful that you have had to endure all this and it beggars belief that the so-called "professionals" appear to be incompetent and inconsiderate.

    I wish you well over these next few days/weeks.

    God bless
    Phil
     
  15. Splashing About

    Splashing About Registered User

    Oct 20, 2019
    346
    This.
     
  16. jaymor

    jaymor Volunteer Moderator

    Jul 14, 2006
    12,609
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    My condolences on your sad loss, wishing you strength in the weeks and months ahead.
     
  17. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
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  18. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
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    I’m so sorry to read of your loss @DesperateofDevon but I’m glad your dad has found peace. Thinking of you and wishing you strength for the days and weeks to come.
     
  19. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
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    My lovely TP family, thank you for the lovely thoughts & words.
    I am strangely calm & thankful that Dad is no longer in the grips of dementia.
    My Mum is amazingly strong of character & losing her soul mate must be unimaginable without the issues of dementia. Yet today the clarity of mind Mum presented was amazing. I’m sure some difficult days lie ahead but for today I comforted Mum; & then she comforted me her daughter.

    The hardest thing wasn’t telling people,it was the delight on the faces & in the voices of those I visited & called to break the news. I never realised how much I’m Dads daughter - talking about Dads exploits

    old work colleagues are sourcing fake plastic bananas
    Dad had a banana everyday in his lunch box it was a running joke among his work mates to substitute itfor the fake one!
    Another friend of Dads ( he crewed yachts & sailed - even making onto TV news !!) is digging out photos & newspaper clippings of one of Dads mercy mission dashes!

    walking & drinking buddies have tales to curl your hair & leave you laughing holding your sides!

    friends of Mums tell of random acts of kindness- Dad dug one lady a grave for her cat un-asked; after a 12 hour shift at work.

    as for My lovely Aunty ( Dads sister ) I stared into the same colour eyes as Dad & felt loved & cherished; tears & laughter followed but more laughter than tears.

    what a legacy Dad leaves behind, so tonight when I get home please raise a glass or cup of whatever & toast my lovely Dad- Peter with me. A gentle man .

    much love to you all
    Will be hopefully back on the forum in a couple of days
    Xx
     
  20. Woohoo

    Woohoo Registered User

    Apr 30, 2019
    535
    Female
    South East
    Chin chin to Peter . He is having plenty of giggles I’m sure . Raising a G & T to him and my dad and all our loved ones flying high . Take care and be proud . Hugs sent . X
     

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