So bizarre !
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News flash
Woman in north Wales was seen dancing around her front garden and singing at the top of her voice at 9.00 this morning. Rumours are spreading that she may be suffering from respite.
If seen do not approach as we fear she has seriously lost the plot.
Genius post! Thank you for the smile
Ann and family, enjoy your much deserved break xx
Great post Onlyme!
Ann, I do NOT think it sounds hateful that you admitted to being glad when MIL had gone. TBH, if you had said otherwise I wouldn't have believed you! Having MIL living with you is coming at a huge cost to your health and welfare - what is being gained from it? She clearly isn't happy, she is angry and antagonistic a large proportion of the time and delusional for the rest.
I hope that the final night of Joseph goes really well and that you all enjoy your week - you more than deserve it!
Dotty, I had help, I belong to an organisation called 'Benefits and work' that produces guides to completing the forms.
Ann, I do NOT think it sounds hateful that you admitted to being glad when MIL had gone. TBH, if you had said otherwise I wouldn't have believed you! Having MIL living with you is coming at a huge cost to your health and welfare - what is being gained from it? She clearly isn't happy, she is angry and antagonistic a large proportion of the time and delusional for the rest.
I hope that the final night of Joseph goes really well and that you all enjoy your week - you more than deserve it!
Dotty, I had help, I belong to an organisation called 'Benefits and work' that produces guides to completing the forms.
Ann - I don't know how you survived those last few days, that direct nastiness to you would be along way beyond what I could cope with, I'm so glad you have got your respite. Hope you didn't run around the garden for too long, there were reports of snow on FB not so far from you.
I'm not sure trying to work out where she is coming from with comments would help me, the old bit may just be because she thinks she is in her 20s and so sees you as old. Odd how PWD can work out how to press buttons but not a lot else sometimes. I suspect some of it is just what comes into her head to say with no background in the past.
Hope Joseph was fab, and dau is having a long sleep undisturbed by grandma. School may not give permission but if you are going to take her out and she thinks she can catch up on work why not. I got wrong ferry booking for race in Isle of Man so dau is missing 2 days school instead of 1, she is really pleased as she says she is so bored.
I hope you have booked ahead with respite for the next 6 months, you can always cancel but this one was hard to book. Next time can you just get her in the car thinking she is going to a cafe and put her case in without her seeing, I know you feel she understands but if she makes such drama getting out of the house, it sounds like she is now at the stage where less info is actually kinder to her.
Grace - I hope the nurses letter moves things on with your op, my MILs knee op seemed to get dragged out for a long time before they committed to it on the NHS (aside from us taking a second opinion). Given she is 89 six months of dragging it out is a massive chunk of her remaining life, we got the feeling it was because she would need a high level of help being on her own, and being in Scotland the care would be free, eg she had someone to help her dress for weeks afterwards. 4 months later she is now much better than before op so it was worth it.
Slugsta - glad you had a good time in London, doubt I'll fit in watching the TV prog, although I do love those things on the telly, my dad would always let us stay up late to watch that sort of thing.
It was my mum's birthday yesterday, she was 86, I got her a load of nice boxed chocs from Aldi, forgot to get her a present and it was less out the way than chaos of outlet village on a Sat eve to get her fav Thorntons. Made some cupcake style bday cakes, with happy birthday written across then, she made sure where she could we had the one for our initial. She was on good form, and OH commented she seemed better than she had. She still drove dau mad repeatedly asking if we still had 2 cats, and then later when both were in living room she tried to pick the timid one up, something she has done for years, and although she only used to visit every 6 weeks we think it made this cat more timid, we would repeatedly tell her not to, and like yesterday she would grab her roughly. Cat is now 10 and so no longer hides from us for next 5 days after this, don't think previous behaviour was dementia as I remember my gran telling her off in a similar way for being too rough with cats. As we got in car to go home she commented on she hadn't expected to have such a nice birthday, and then as we drove off she said I wonder what I'll get for next birthday and then realised it was what my brother had said as a child and was not quite the right thing to say.
I'm not sure trying to work out where she is coming from with comments would help me, the old bit may just be because she thinks she is in her 20s and so sees you as old. Odd how PWD can work out how to press buttons but not a lot else sometimes. I suspect some of it is just what comes into her head to say with no background in the past.
Hope Joseph was fab, and dau is having a long sleep undisturbed by grandma. School may not give permission but if you are going to take her out and she thinks she can catch up on work why not. I got wrong ferry booking for race in Isle of Man so dau is missing 2 days school instead of 1, she is really pleased as she says she is so bored.
I hope you have booked ahead with respite for the next 6 months, you can always cancel but this one was hard to book. Next time can you just get her in the car thinking she is going to a cafe and put her case in without her seeing, I know you feel she understands but if she makes such drama getting out of the house, it sounds like she is now at the stage where less info is actually kinder to her.
Grace - I hope the nurses letter moves things on with your op, my MILs knee op seemed to get dragged out for a long time before they committed to it on the NHS (aside from us taking a second opinion). Given she is 89 six months of dragging it out is a massive chunk of her remaining life, we got the feeling it was because she would need a high level of help being on her own, and being in Scotland the care would be free, eg she had someone to help her dress for weeks afterwards. 4 months later she is now much better than before op so it was worth it.
Slugsta - glad you had a good time in London, doubt I'll fit in watching the TV prog, although I do love those things on the telly, my dad would always let us stay up late to watch that sort of thing.
It was my mum's birthday yesterday, she was 86, I got her a load of nice boxed chocs from Aldi, forgot to get her a present and it was less out the way than chaos of outlet village on a Sat eve to get her fav Thorntons. Made some cupcake style bday cakes, with happy birthday written across then, she made sure where she could we had the one for our initial. She was on good form, and OH commented she seemed better than she had. She still drove dau mad repeatedly asking if we still had 2 cats, and then later when both were in living room she tried to pick the timid one up, something she has done for years, and although she only used to visit every 6 weeks we think it made this cat more timid, we would repeatedly tell her not to, and like yesterday she would grab her roughly. Cat is now 10 and so no longer hides from us for next 5 days after this, don't think previous behaviour was dementia as I remember my gran telling her off in a similar way for being too rough with cats. As we got in car to go home she commented on she hadn't expected to have such a nice birthday, and then as we drove off she said I wonder what I'll get for next birthday and then realised it was what my brother had said as a child and was not quite the right thing to say.
JM, I'm glad your mum enjoyed her birthday
My Mum chases my cats around the room, wanting cuddles, she always has. Years ago she would come and say 'Your cat has scratched me' and I would know why! Alfie weighs nearly a stone and is friendly but does not like being picked up. Fortunately,Cleo is much smaller and loves cuddles so she is amenable to being picked up. When we go out Mum usually wants to fuss any dog we see - although she has seemed less interested lately
I do hope that Ann and her family have had a lovely, chilled day
My Mum chases my cats around the room, wanting cuddles, she always has. Years ago she would come and say 'Your cat has scratched me' and I would know why! Alfie weighs nearly a stone and is friendly but does not like being picked up. Fortunately,Cleo is much smaller and loves cuddles so she is amenable to being picked up. When we go out Mum usually wants to fuss any dog we see - although she has seemed less interested lately
I do hope that Ann and her family have had a lovely, chilled day
Your comment has reminded me that as a child my mum got badly scratched or bitten by a neighbour's cat, needed several stitches, I remember neighbour saying that cat wasn't the most friendly, guess she probably tried to pick it up. My mum has always been really stubborn and thinks she knows best about a lot of things, used to drive my gran mad over many things.
Sadly our timid cat was just starting to socialise a bit when my mum kept picking her up roughly and forcibly holding on to her, then would slowly start to socialise and mum would visit again.
Cat was made timid in the first place by son when he was a toddler, and he would grab, the big cat who scratches, but not badly, scratched son a few times for this and he learnt.
Sadly our timid cat was just starting to socialise a bit when my mum kept picking her up roughly and forcibly holding on to her, then would slowly start to socialise and mum would visit again.
Cat was made timid in the first place by son when he was a toddler, and he would grab, the big cat who scratches, but not badly, scratched son a few times for this and he learnt.
Hi everybody! Had a slight problem with iPad, but will get back to own thread in a minute.
I saw Maynard Williams in Joseph ( he's the son of Bill Maynard) also with a great voice back in mid 1970s at Leicester Haymarket. Very good, I ought to go and see it again!
Ann, enjoy your respite!! And hope things happen. You CPN seems to have prevarication off to a fine art!
I saw Maynard Williams in Joseph ( he's the son of Bill Maynard) also with a great voice back in mid 1970s at Leicester Haymarket. Very good, I ought to go and see it again!
Ann, enjoy your respite!! And hope things happen. You CPN seems to have prevarication off to a fine art!
I saw Joseph in London, a couple of times I think 70s or early 80s.
On the plus front, car was fixed on Friday, think OH was driving pretty fast in it at the time which may have caused it to go.
Lawnmower broke mid cut of back lawn yesterday, part ordered to arrive Wed.
Hope Ann is enjoying respite, dry but bitterly cold yesterday if she got to zoo, I went past the back entrance twice on bikes yesterday (4 miles from house so one of our main cycling routes into Cheshire) damp here, think looks worse her way at the moment. Hope she chases CPN up as CPN does seem to be giving her the runaround.
On the plus front, car was fixed on Friday, think OH was driving pretty fast in it at the time which may have caused it to go.
Lawnmower broke mid cut of back lawn yesterday, part ordered to arrive Wed.
Hope Ann is enjoying respite, dry but bitterly cold yesterday if she got to zoo, I went past the back entrance twice on bikes yesterday (4 miles from house so one of our main cycling routes into Cheshire) damp here, think looks worse her way at the moment. Hope she chases CPN up as CPN does seem to be giving her the runaround.
I do hope that things get sorted easily, I hate to think of Ann spending all week trying to organise things for MIL!
Carwise, we have gone through phases of issues, but not normal, as for lawnmower, I think it reached the end of it's useful life a while ago, but OH thinks otherwise, has ordered a new part for £20, but dau and I find it hard to start and to keep motor running at correct revs, new one in screwfix is on offer for £150. I was so hoping it was done for, at least it went whilst OH was using it.
JM - with that level of difficulty for you and daughter think you should tell OH mowing the lawn is his job now. Might speed the new Screwfix one your way!
I try to avoid that, he mows any flowers overhanging the lawn and into the beds as well sometimes, he is not a gardener. I once asked him to dig out some dead rose bushes for me, and he did, but then thought he would be helpful and dig it over, 2ft deep, so ended up with clay on top and bulbs 2 ft down.
Hope Ann is OK, she mentioned taking dau out of school today to go to Manchester - not the weather for it when I left home. My kids are still on holiday this week as the 'Easter' break has been staggered.
News flash
Woman in north Wales was seen dancing around her front garden and singing at the top of her voice at 9.00 this morning. Rumours are spreading that she may be suffering from respite.
If seen do not approach as we fear she has seriously lost the plot.
ROFCWL - Bloody press - didn't realise I was being watched
Popping in briefly to give update.
Just had phone call from CPN. Psychiatrist called in to see Mil in DC apparently, last week - first we have heard of it! He found Mil to be completely lucid and calm. DC reported no change, other than they feel she is very sleepy after morning diaz, so he has reduced the does down to 2mg in the morning (Not sure when that's going to be implemented, being as I organise all the scripts and nobody had mentioned it to me till today!). Psychiatrist and CPN both feel that depending on the 'AMP' ( I think thats the acronym she used, its the independent person who has to assess Mil prior to admission) there may be an issue with them agreeing to Mil being sectioned if she presents as calmly to them as she did to psychiatrist last week. I asked if these AMP's actually have experience with dementia? Had they not heard of 'hostess mode' or are they not aware of how the presentation can change from minute to minute almost? Apparently not - they have no specific training in dementia awareness, some will listen to evidence from psychiatrist, some will go on just what they see at the 'interview' (I can well imagine your responses to that bit of news - just try not to swear as much as I mentally did!).
So - the psychiatrist said Mil was 'quite open' to the idea of going into hospital in order for them to sort out her medication. (Authority figure = agreeing to whatever they say - until she forgets, or someone more familiar suggests it!
). I asked what happens when she gets there and changes her mind? Oh - they can section her then, I think without the AMP being involved (or at least, I think that's the gist of it!). However - the psychiatrist is off next week - so either its sorted this week, or we have to wait till he is back. CPN is going to 'talk to him' (again) and we may get a phone call tomorrow.
Once again, I felt that I had to justify pushing for this assessment. Which left me feeling very guilty. I hope what I said got through to the CPN about why we feel its so necessary and important for Mil's sake, let alone ours.
Other news - Joseph was just amazing! The choir were of course, the stars of the show - just hoping none of the teachers there spotted my youngests 'eye roll' when one of the brothers nearly fell over on stage
McElderry's version of 'Close every door' gave me goosebumps - just outstanding, totally outstanding. And Lucy Kay as narrator sings the role in a much lower key than I've previously heard, and when her voice duets with McElderry's, my goosebumps also got goosebumps - beautiful !We spent Sunday at the zoo - rather chuffed with some of the shots I got - Monday was spent turning the house upside down looking for important documents (that OH had 'put somewhere safe') as OH needed them as he has today gone to re-sit the assessments and interviews for the new position (fingers crossed, everyone, please!). Me and the girls were all supposed to go and have a day out around Manchester whilst he was attending, but the afternoon at the coast, the show, the day at the zoo and yesterdays strenuous 'house sort' has caught up with me, and I've cried off as (a) I doubt if my hip and back can take another physically arduous day and (b) son and his GF are coming home, just for tonight, and the house needs a bit of TLC as it currently looks like Paddy's market on a bad day!
I'll catch up with everyones news and posts again - right now, the state of the bathroom is demanding my attention, I'm afraid - need to give the housework fairy a kick up the backside, as she has obviously not pulled her weight this last few days, lol.
Have a good day all xxxx
