Morning all,
I'd so miss it, if we didn't have a dog around the house Slugsta - we (OH and I) both had dogs growing up, though we waited until after we had child number 3 before we got Busta. Lol - we were planning (well in advance) on doing that bad thing of getting a doggy for Christmas - the difference being the kids were going to be told on Xmas Day, then we would take them to a rescue centre AFTER Xmas to hopefully give a home to one of the many abandoned at that time of year. Busta sort of jumped the gun - well before Christmas he turned up in our back garden, a stray - when no one claimed him after a week, he was ours. We say he chose us
Both dogs are some sort of terrier cross - not entirely sure what sort of terrier with either, though fairly sure Seamus has either rat terrier or jack russell, and possibly some yorkie. We have a running joke that Seamus is a brand new breed - he has his own hashtag -
#SeamusTheShortHairedS**t - believe me, it fits! I'll add a pic at the end - Busta is the very handsome shaggy bigger boy - Seamus is the tiny darker pup
Odd how both the Mum's are pulling to the left with the new walking aids, isn't it? Is your Mum aware that its happening? Mil is, and has started to say that the 'frame must be faulty'
. Its very obvious to see that it isn't the frame, that she is veering towards the left herself, but she can't seem to realise it herself. Glad you had a good day with your son, and hope you enjoyed the quiz night too
Really pleased to hear that you had such a nice birthday, Spamar - you deserve it
Hope the nausea/vertigo stays gone for you now, though - have you still got someof the meds in? Worth having if you need to knock any lingering symptoms on the head xxxx
Thanks Essie - I wondered if it was the Parkinsons causing the pull to the left, as she has a tendency sometimes to list towards that direction even when walking without the frame.
Hi MrsBusy - yep, Mils meds were all changed by the consultant who diagnosed the LBD - resperidone and mitrazepam stopped. She had been on both for a long time, about 15 months, maybe slightly longer. I did think we would see a reduction in the delusions when the meds were changed, but whats happened is that there has been a reduction in the delusions featuring some sort of extreme violence - we are not hearing much about gunmen or knife wielding maniacs any more. But she still spends the vast majority of her time entrenched in other delusions - I don't think that she is ever, in her head, in reality
She never thinks that she is in her son's house, in Wales, with her family - always some part of where she believes she is, what she believes she does, who we are or what she is about to do, is delusional. The only thing I can be grateful for is for the most part, I don't think she now realises now at all that she is confused or may be wrong about these things. At one stage she used to snap back to 'reality' and realise that she had been confused and it would make her dreadfully upset. She would ask if she was 'going mad' or if she was 'mental' - that just doesn't happen any more, and I'm glad of it for her sake.
Yep - I read about how many people are mis-diagnosed. Mils original diagnosis of dementia (VaD and AZ) was several years ago - it was only 3 months ago that the diagnosis was changed to LBD, despite CPN, Social Workers and staff at day care querying if the original diagnosis was right and saying they felt she quite possibly had LBD. I haven't read anything about 'dementia with LB' being different to LBD ? Need to do more research I think. We always have a music station on in the car with Mil - we tend to go for Smooth, as there is nothing heavy or too modern on there. Having said that, Mil seems to have lost all interest in music - when she first moved in, I made up dozens of play lists on youtube for her (Irish folk, 50's and 60's, Elvis, Tom Jones) - - if I put them on now, she doesn't seem to have any interest at all.
I can believe you on the 'playing up' - we had a fair bit of that yesterday! Very much 'Lady of the Manor' - she seemed to think that she owned this house and the things in it. Which would be OK, if she didn't try to throw her weight around so much! After OH left for work, within 10 minutes she was rattling at the locked bedroom doors - and woke youngest up, who is a very deprived teen as despite loving her bed, Sunday is the only day when she does have a lie in! That went down like a lead ballon
The rest of the day was peppered with her basically being really aggrivating - the determination to go into the kitchen
(Its MY kitchen - I'll go in if I want!') or out the patio doors, despite the intermittant heavy rain and the fact that it was blowing a gale all day. Kept telling us she just wanted to 'get something' or 'find something' from those two places (and on one occasion from my bedroom, where she demanded that I unlock the door and I was asked 'How dare I' try and stop her going where she wants in her own house!) - but she refused to say what it was she wanted and with the 'smirk' fixed on her face, I'm pretty sure it was more about being where she had some idea that she wasn't supposed to go! After lunch, daughter had asked could she watch some stuff that she had recorded. Mil wasn't really paying any attention to the TV, and unlike daughter, Mil does have a tv in her room anyway, so I said yes.
All afternoon it was then - 'Give me the remote for the TV, Ann, now!' - if I explained that daughter was watching something, I was told that '
Tough - its MY televison'. When I refused to give in, it was instant heading for the kitchen or she would 'wander' round, picking up and fiddling with various items that weren't her's. I'd left my camera on the table, as I'd noticed some new visitors at my bird feeders and wanted to be able to grab it quick to try and get some shots. Eventually Mil made the mistake of going for my camera. That was the last straw - she was told to go upstairs.
An hour later, back down, at least sitting in the lounge and not wandering, but clearly in a bad mood, judging by the huffs and puffs and odd comment she made. I put the evening meal out and called Mil through to the table. She informed me that she didn't want it now. That I could 'get it for' her later, when she was ready. I politely asked her to come and eat now, as I said I didn't want to be cooking and washing up for a second time later in the evening. Again I was told 'tough' - and that she didn't care what I wanted. SHE would decide when I would give her her meals, not me! That she was 'entitled' to eat at her convenience and didn't care about mine.
Really? I don't think so - not with that attitude! Very bluntly told she either ate now, or it would go in the bin and she could wait for the next days breakfast to eat. When I actually took her plate to the bin, you could see the panic on her face and she moved her backside fairly quickly to the table. And - as always - cleared her plate! After tea, she went back to the demanding the remote and getting increasingly cross when I refused - we had two programmes recording, so were watching something on planner and I didn't want her cancelling the recordings. She kept saying that she wanted to watch 'her' programme - but couldn't say what it was called or even say what it was about. When I wouldn't comply, back to the wandering and messing with others things - going through the pockets on coats on the pegs, picking up dau's school bag, heading for the kitchen to find/fetch more 'things' (though she refused again to say what 'things' she wanted'), up the stairs then back down demanding that I open either a bedroom or her wardrobe door. 7.30 and enough - she was told to go upstairs and watch her telly there. Thankfully she went. 9, I took up meds and got her properly changed, and all quiet since. Not a majorly bad day, as such - just one 'niggle' and aggrivation after another, so it was a long day.
Can hear her rambling round her bedroom now, so will have to head up and sort her - OH has another 12 hour shift today and I am very glad that she is back in day care!
Hope you all have a good day xxxx