Its so hard not to respond when our loved ones announce something that we know is completely false. If its possible, in response to something like 'you didn't sleep in your bed last night', I'll respond with 'Really?' or 'Oh dear - would you like a cuppa?'. Where I find it hard is when she will say 'Why didn't you sleep in your bed last night? Because you didn't, that man was able to come into my room and steal my shoes!'. The non-committal responses won't cut it with her then (and neither will an 'I'm sorry - it won't happen again'). She wants to know WHY and generally have a go at me for whatever it is she thinks I've either done or not done. And no matter how I try love lies or distraction, she won't accept it. When its like that I stick to 'I'm sorry you feel like that, but you are mistaken. I didn't (
insert whatever the accusation is) . . . and as you are being rude, I am not discussing it any more'. I'm guessing you have had a similar situation to the second example with Maureen this morning - and I feel for you
Its so frustrating and upsetting having to defend yourself when you have done nothing wrong
I forget to say - Piph - the manuka arrived yesterday, so even though I did her dressing yesterday morning, I did it again last night so I could start using it. The wound is very slowly shrinking in size, but there is still a large area that is 'gaping' and oozing that horrible 'yellowy' stuff - I know that will eventually form a scab, but at the moment, that just isn't happening, and any slight bump or even touch to the area is starting it bleeding again. Fingers crossed that the manuka honey will speed up the process for her - while its as it is, I am worried about infection
Not a good start to the day. When i went in to finally get her up, she was in the process of pulling up her pull ups, (I'd had to put fresh on at just before 6, as she had stripped them off) saying she was 'going to get dressed' but then thought she had better wait . Although the bed was dry, it was heavily smeared with poo - which was also smeared across her bottom, the backs of her legs and her fingers. She hasn't got an upset tum, just she appears to have tried to clean herself with her hands and in the process, distributed it over several other area's. In the bathroom, I asked her to take the pull ups off and put them in the bin - and had to ask her six times in total as she either argued or blanked me. Once I'd got her clean, dressed, breakfasted, done her meds and her hair, it was 8.45, so I thought too short a time left for her to really get into the coat loop. Typical Mil, though, she made the most of every second of the time left
11 demands for her coat in the space of 15 minutes doesn't beat her previous record - but its still flipping annoying, lol!
I've also added a link to the blog I've started to keep about Mil, to my signature - not sure if it will help anyone, but it was suggested I add it, on the off chance