Oh yes,
@Pork Pie lady and
@Duggies-girl . I definitely know where you are coming from on this subject.
My late husband’s daughters, who live a 15 min drive away saw him twice in his last 6 months.
When I was eventually in carer meltdown, he was diagnosed with terminal cancer.
That was when the you know what hit the fan.
Of course, everything was my fault, why hadn’t I asked them to visit. What...Who needs an invitation to visit their sick father. I was never once asked if I was coping or did I need help.
Don’t get me going on their so called eulogy. It was embarrassing. It was like they were just reading from a list of the jobs that he had done and it appeared that his life ended in 1980 when he divorced their mother, because of her infidelity may I add.
We didn’t meet until 1990 so there was never any question of me being the wicked stepmother, quite the opposite, we were always good friends.
On the day of the funeral they didn’t even glance in my direction let alone speak but it didn’t stop them from attending the wake and eating and drinking on my tab.
As all his and my good friends were there to see this behaviour, it was good for me to feel vindicated.
In my case, there was no question of them trying to claim money from me. They knew that our wills were tightly tied up.
I am now estranged from them and have to say that I couldn’t be happier with the situation.