My Dad was diagnosed with LBD in January this year although it has been obvious that he has dementia at least 4 years prior to this.
He has moved into a care home in Wales so my Mum can visit, although she hasn’t been able to yet as she has broken her right arm in a fall.
I live in N.Devon and for the last 2 years my Dad has been in and out of hospitals but nothing medically wrong has ever been found.
He has now been there for nearly 2 weeks. He has lost all Mobility ( he says) and refuses to walk. He rings us for an hour at a time at least twice a day complaining about everything. The food is awful but he never seems to have enough. He hates the people there, the other residents and the staff. He has deliberately mangled a sensor mat, shouted at a resident. He is selfish, demanding and bullies the staff. I have listened to conversations between Dad and staff when they don’t know I’m listening and they sound SO patient and respectful towards him despite him being demanding and bossy. He has rung the police on a number of occasions and they’re getting fed up of him wasting their time. He has also called for a taxi, who knows where he got the number for one!
I realise that the excessive hunger and paranoia are probably dementia related. He also wets himself and soils himself on purpose and pretends to fall over and then blames staff for leaving him there.
The reason for this post is , I’m just wondering how long it takes for a person to get used to a care home. I really don’t think the staff are negligent. I looked into this care home very carefully, visited first , read reviews on carehomes.co.uk and read the care homes latest (glowing) inspection report, dated July 2023. They are listed in the top 20 care homes in Wales and have won annual awards for the last few years. I’m at my wits end with this and don’t know what to do next!
When he left the hospital he was walking with a zimmer frame and an ambulance ride later he was ‘immobile’
This is a residential care home , specialising in dementia but it isn’t a nursing home and my Dad is taking up all the carers time and needs constant supervision.
He has moved into a care home in Wales so my Mum can visit, although she hasn’t been able to yet as she has broken her right arm in a fall.
I live in N.Devon and for the last 2 years my Dad has been in and out of hospitals but nothing medically wrong has ever been found.
He has now been there for nearly 2 weeks. He has lost all Mobility ( he says) and refuses to walk. He rings us for an hour at a time at least twice a day complaining about everything. The food is awful but he never seems to have enough. He hates the people there, the other residents and the staff. He has deliberately mangled a sensor mat, shouted at a resident. He is selfish, demanding and bullies the staff. I have listened to conversations between Dad and staff when they don’t know I’m listening and they sound SO patient and respectful towards him despite him being demanding and bossy. He has rung the police on a number of occasions and they’re getting fed up of him wasting their time. He has also called for a taxi, who knows where he got the number for one!
I realise that the excessive hunger and paranoia are probably dementia related. He also wets himself and soils himself on purpose and pretends to fall over and then blames staff for leaving him there.
The reason for this post is , I’m just wondering how long it takes for a person to get used to a care home. I really don’t think the staff are negligent. I looked into this care home very carefully, visited first , read reviews on carehomes.co.uk and read the care homes latest (glowing) inspection report, dated July 2023. They are listed in the top 20 care homes in Wales and have won annual awards for the last few years. I’m at my wits end with this and don’t know what to do next!
When he left the hospital he was walking with a zimmer frame and an ambulance ride later he was ‘immobile’
This is a residential care home , specialising in dementia but it isn’t a nursing home and my Dad is taking up all the carers time and needs constant supervision.