My dad has Lewy Body Dementia. I have noticed, and find it quite upsetting, that my dad will be 'off' with me - not looking at me when I talk to him; talking as if he's annoyed with me; non responsive in conversations (unless we talk about his childhood or something that interests him); refusing point blank to do anything, but not explaining why he won't do something, just saying, "I just don't want to."
However, when someone visits the house from outside (a workman for example) or Dad has a medical appointment and interacts with a health worker, or talks to his nephews on the 'phone, even if we go to a cafe and Dad speaks to the waiter, he will maintain eye contact, crack a joke, his voice will be stronger and he will prolong the conversation. I just don't understand why he doesn't show the same enthusiasm when speaking to me, my husband and my mum (his wife).
My mum does tend to criticise Dad, but I never do and I always tend to defend him. I haven't confronted him either or told him how upset his lack of effort makes me because I don't want to hurt his feelings. I put everything down to it being his condition, but I don't know whether this is to be expected in someone who has dementia. Have other people come across this behaviour? Sometimes it's downright rude! I know he loves me, but he's like a completely different, sociable, man when he's talking to other people. Any insights?
However, when someone visits the house from outside (a workman for example) or Dad has a medical appointment and interacts with a health worker, or talks to his nephews on the 'phone, even if we go to a cafe and Dad speaks to the waiter, he will maintain eye contact, crack a joke, his voice will be stronger and he will prolong the conversation. I just don't understand why he doesn't show the same enthusiasm when speaking to me, my husband and my mum (his wife).
My mum does tend to criticise Dad, but I never do and I always tend to defend him. I haven't confronted him either or told him how upset his lack of effort makes me because I don't want to hurt his feelings. I put everything down to it being his condition, but I don't know whether this is to be expected in someone who has dementia. Have other people come across this behaviour? Sometimes it's downright rude! I know he loves me, but he's like a completely different, sociable, man when he's talking to other people. Any insights?