Hi everyone,
My OH is going into respite for three nights whilst I go to a family wedding. The wedding is a 500 + mile round trip and I don't think he'd cope with the upheaval and excitement.
He's spent a day in the day care there last week, seemed ok . He hasn't mentioned it at all. Staff just said he was fine!
But...He can get stubborn ,at bedtime in particular ,where he'll refuse his medication for his heart, I insist til he takes it. He'll occasionally say he's off to see his parents and tries to leave. I lock the door to stop him and he just sits on the stairs still he comes round.
My question is would a care home allow him to not take meds and allow him to leave?
It's obvious to all who know him that he doesn't have the mental capacity to understand the consequences of his actions but there's no formal recent tests and SS are not involved.
I'm going back to chat with the home on Monday but they were very laid back about him ,in fact a bit lax although staff were lovely with him .
Home seemed a bit like real home, a bit lacking in a professional presentation but all residents looked clean ,cared for and the place though shabby didn't smell .
When I collected him last week after his day visit ,staff said he was fine and asked when he was going for his stay. They haven't taken any formal details .
Home is under notice to improve ,care was good and the LA uses the home.
What should I ask ,what should I expect ?
I don't want to leave him if he's not safe.
Thanks
My OH is going into respite for three nights whilst I go to a family wedding. The wedding is a 500 + mile round trip and I don't think he'd cope with the upheaval and excitement.
He's spent a day in the day care there last week, seemed ok . He hasn't mentioned it at all. Staff just said he was fine!
But...He can get stubborn ,at bedtime in particular ,where he'll refuse his medication for his heart, I insist til he takes it. He'll occasionally say he's off to see his parents and tries to leave. I lock the door to stop him and he just sits on the stairs still he comes round.
My question is would a care home allow him to not take meds and allow him to leave?
It's obvious to all who know him that he doesn't have the mental capacity to understand the consequences of his actions but there's no formal recent tests and SS are not involved.
I'm going back to chat with the home on Monday but they were very laid back about him ,in fact a bit lax although staff were lovely with him .
Home seemed a bit like real home, a bit lacking in a professional presentation but all residents looked clean ,cared for and the place though shabby didn't smell .
When I collected him last week after his day visit ,staff said he was fine and asked when he was going for his stay. They haven't taken any formal details .
Home is under notice to improve ,care was good and the LA uses the home.
What should I ask ,what should I expect ?
I don't want to leave him if he's not safe.
Thanks