Hello
@NannyRos
I have a tale to tell that I think encapsulates this complex issue.
About 2yrs ago I drove, with my wife, to the GP's to pick up her scripts. We were then on the way to the pharmacy when this conversation arose, my wife spoke first:
Do you know something?
I know a lot of things, whats on your mind?
This will change things. (that got me interested!)
Oh, what are you thinking about?
Are you married?
Yes.
(my wife burst into tears)
What's wrong M?
I wanted to marry you!
The fact is that when names/relationships are forgotten the feelings often remain. It was nice that my wife still had her moral code and still wanted to marry me.
I love telling people that tale.