My daughter died in August, a hot August.
The Church was full and I hardly noticed any faces, but at the back, in a pair of shorts and a Tshirt, was an old (primary) school friend.
One of my sisters was outraged that she had come to Church in shorts (it was 1983)...
I was DELIGHTED and touched, that she came.
Go to this ladies funeral, WS, she played an important part in your and your Mum's life, you have always spoken highly of this lady.
You're not going for tea, you're paying your respects.
And respect her, you did.
You're doing the right thing.
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The family will understand how much this lady meant to you and how important she was to your mum. That will kean everything to them. You loved her for herself, nit due to any other connection. That is a real tribute to a wonderful person. Please try to be happy that you had her in your life too. It will help with the grief you feel. You are a lovely person.
... and have truckloads of faults.
When my husband John died, my daughter phoned everyone on the list that I gave her. These included 2 ladies that I knew, and that, years earlier, John had met when he walked the dog. After the funeral, several people introduced themselves to me as other Doggy Walking companions of John's. I was delighted!
To think these people had gone out of their way to attend the funeral, which wasn't easy to reach by public transport, touched me very much. I invited them all back for the tea, and a couple came, together with the ladies I knew.
But to know they felt so much of John, that they wanted pay their respects, touched me very much. His dog walking days had ceased years before, but it's moments like this that the family treasure.
If you have to go on your own, then do so, but believe me, your presence will be much appreciated. Bless You for your kind heart. xxx
You were a friend to L, so yes, you should definitely go.
I am sure the family will appreciate you going.
J x