Please don't overthink the 'did you go remark?' She may have been told that someone went from the home and how pleased the family were about that, but I would assume she just replied to you as you spoke about it, and she probably thought how nice it was of you to go. You have done nothing wrong by going at all, in fact the opposite and your Mum would be proud that she brought you up with such consideration and empathy for others, a rare thing it seems nowadays. Good for you having a letting your hair down session in Wetherspoons. It dd you good in some ways. Enjoy your day.