Poor Piedsmum is poorly again.
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Helen33
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Dear Pied,
This is so unnecessary and so sad. I am sorry your mum has to experience this. Unfortunately, I am not surprised any more as there seems to be something desperately wrong with the health/care system.
I hope you get some rest Pied after such an emotional day.
Love
This is so unnecessary and so sad. I am sorry your mum has to experience this. Unfortunately, I am not surprised any more as there seems to be something desperately wrong with the health/care system.
I hope you get some rest Pied after such an emotional day.
Love
piedwarbler
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I've got a view on what the problem is Helen.
Helen33
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Oh Pied I wish I could understand what was wrong. I am faced with it every time I have to attend Haematology Dept
I have now got to the point where I hate going but just have to put up with it. I would dread to think what my experience would be if I was totally dependent upon them I have to check everything and everytime there is always something seriously wrong The nursing care was atrocious and I fail to understand why the word 'care' is used at all
Sorry for letting go a little on here but I just thank goodness that your mum has you keeping an eye on things and offering her 'care'. I remember the feeling of having someone visit me who really knew how to 'care' and although I was unresponsive because of being so ill, I do remember how wonderful it felt.
Love and a (HUG)
I have now got to the point where I hate going but just have to put up with it. I would dread to think what my experience would be if I was totally dependent upon them I have to check everything and everytime there is always something seriously wrong The nursing care was atrocious and I fail to understand why the word 'care' is used at allSorry for letting go a little on here but I just thank goodness that your mum has you keeping an eye on things and offering her 'care'. I remember the feeling of having someone visit me who really knew how to 'care' and although I was unresponsive because of being so ill, I do remember how wonderful it felt.
Love and a (HUG)
piedwarbler
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Hi Helen, I recall that feeling too, once when I had a nice midwife when I was very ill after having my son and once while on chemo when I felt dreadful. It really means a lot to know that you think it's worthwhile being there when someone isn't responding at all. Mum wasn't today but I firmly believe she knew I was there. My hubby said "why are you going? What difference does it make? You can't do anything ." I said "I can comfort her" and he didnt say anything. But I think I would want someone just to be with me. A good nurse has an aura about her. She's calm and quiet and healing and she brings light and comfort into a room. She watches her patient and tunes into them instinctively, feeling what they need. My MiL said about one of her carers "she reads my mind". She was very ill and could hardly talk at the time.
A good nurse sees what is needed from basics like mouth care and rubbing legs to spiritual warmth.
A good nurse sees what is needed from basics like mouth care and rubbing legs to spiritual warmth.
grove
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Oh Pied ! So Sorry ! !
Hello Pied , Just Home from Yoga & just read about the pills & the Nurse ! Am NOT surprised that you were feeling so cross & I feel for you & your poor Mum ( it should NOT have happened Pied ) Am not going to go on about it but just too say the Nurse should have been more *Caring *
Hope you can rest / let go before Bed Time & you & your Mum have a better day tomorrow
Much Love , Peace & BIG HUGS for today & in the days to come
Love & Hugs
Grove x x x x
Hello Pied , Just Home from Yoga & just read about the pills & the
Nurse ! Am NOT surprised that you were feeling so cross & I feel for you & your poor Mum ( it should NOT have happened Pied ) Am not going to go on about it but just too say the Nurse should have been more *Caring * Hope you can rest / let go before Bed Time & you & your Mum have a better day tomorrow
Much Love , Peace & BIG HUGS for today & in the days to come
Love & Hugs
Grove x x x x
creativesarah
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Bless you Pied love and stuff Sarah
Only to say i completely understand where you’re coming from and know i’d feel absolutely the same if it was my dad. I don’t think there’s any excuse for not administering your mum’s pills properly when she's so ill especially as they can be crushed up to a powder and mixed with liquid or v soft food if needs be. Realise though that the carers are so often overstretched and underpaid and when speed is of the essence, personalized care which takes patience and kindness is greatly compromised. It’s hard when you lose faith that the basics are being attended to properly, we entrust so much to our CH’s but hope at least the words you had with the nurse will ensure no repeats. Yes, wouldn't it be wonderful if all our relatives were treated like Royalty! All good wishes,
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piedwarbler
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Oh maybe I'm just upset. I know they care about Mum. They are not lazy. They rush everywhere. Do everything fast. It's the owners I'm angry with. The whole system is sad.
I hope that's what I said in this post; it's certainly what I meant.
piedwarbler
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Thank you so much Jeany. I hope you get some sleep tonight; it's late for you to be up and typing.
I do appreciate your thoughts. Xxxx
I do appreciate your thoughts. Xxxx
piedwarbler
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Morning Izzy, thanks. I got a few hours thanks. I do feel really exhausted. I rang the home just now. There's been no change. Mum is described as "weary". She seems worse to me than I've ever seen her. I'm going in shortly.
Love
Love
jan.s
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Dear Pied.
I have been following your thread. I am sorry to hear Mum is poorly, and the antics with the tablets was unbelievable. Some people just don't seem to understand.
I hope you find your mum comfortable this morning and can get some rest yourself.
Thinking of you. Jan x
I have been following your thread. I am sorry to hear Mum is poorly, and the antics with the tablets was unbelievable. Some people just don't seem to understand.
I hope you find your mum comfortable this morning and can get some rest yourself.
Thinking of you. Jan x
Dear Pied,
You seem to have had another poor night's sleep again...
I do hope your mum remains peaceful today, and that your run-in with the nurse has paid off in terms of a bit more thought being used before doing such a stupid thing as the tablet incident yesterday.
xxx
You seem to have had another poor night's sleep again...
I do hope your mum remains peaceful today, and that your run-in with the nurse has paid off in terms of a bit more thought being used before doing such a stupid thing as the tablet incident yesterday.
xxx
DeborahBlythe
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I hope you find things improved for your mum today, Pied.
piedwarbler
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Deep joy of unsurpassable joy, Mum's bed has chosen today to stop working. It's a Cairwave Pegasus and I notice its not been serviced for almost three years.
I am really angry now. The light was flashing when I arrived. Two of the cells aren't filling and emptying and the third one is but that's no good. The director has promised to be here within the hour.
Mum hasn't shown any sign of knowing anythings going on apart from sighing and grimacing when she coughs. The cough sounds like she has a gallon of phlegm going on.
I'd love Nebiroth to tell me what she thinks I should do. I like all those medically informed posts she writes. Xxxx
I am really angry now. The light was flashing when I arrived. Two of the cells aren't filling and emptying and the third one is but that's no good. The director has promised to be here within the hour.
Mum hasn't shown any sign of knowing anythings going on apart from sighing and grimacing when she coughs. The cough sounds like she has a gallon of phlegm going on.
I'd love Nebiroth to tell me what she thinks I should do. I like all those medically informed posts she writes. Xxxx
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