Pied,
Like so many others, I am following your posts and waiting, with hearfelt sympathy and much admiration, for the peaceful end and some rest for you all. We are all here with love and support for you and your family.
'I do hope this diary might help someone who is scared of what might come. I know I was terrified'.
Absolutely. For me, what is coming through in your writing is the love, the raw conflicting emotions and the exhaustion. I can see your shock lessening and acceptance creeping in. It is so honest, so vivid. Thank you.
When my dad was at the end of his life, we were caring for him at home. It was my first close experience of death. I needed to know what to expect. No one would tell me. They were all very vague and almost embarassed.
I would go so far as to say, in time, if you wanted / felt able, you could publish your diary in some way. I see it as an invaluable resource for professionals (Counsellors, Doctors, Macmillans) to recommend to relatives or even selling in a bookshop. We need to be more open about death I think.
What a wonderful gift for your mother to leave us.
Thinking of you all x x