Our magic bitter sweet moments 🥰🥰🥰

[Chizz]

Will save a painting for another day 🤣🤣 that’s a story in itself!

anyway after the drama of the last few weeks we had a weekend off from ‘business and drama’. managed to get mum out for a walk with the grandkid on Saturday. She enjoyed that - my SIL very worried when the baby cries but seemed very normal to me 🙈🙈 Bit disappointed We didn’t get any cuddles but at least made her laugh with tickly fingers - they do get more interesting as they get older anyway!

Got mum in the car yesterday. She got in absolutely fine - but getting out when she’s tired is hard going now. It took an hour to get from car to wheelchair to toilet to zimmer to lounge. But at least giving her the space to sit meant she stayed relaxed and I just got on with stuff during the intervening times.

Stumbled into a beautiful open garden. I enjoyed a wander - the car park was scenic so mum enjoyed the views and a bacon roll from the posh food van.


Back to the real world with a bump - emailed work requesting some unpaid leave - it will be ironic if they (social services) decline when it is the broken care system I am up against, attempted to get thru to the pharmacy (around 10 calls no answer) and went to collect the POA from the post office as had been sent signed for when out - and it wasn’t there 😬😬😬

Well done @sdmhred for perseverance and patience.
Your post reminded me of my times with my OH a year or two years ago. My OH developed a fear of falling (having had a few minor falls) which also affected her confidence. So going out, was originally with two sticks through the front door, with a little hearth, which my OH always thought was high, then to grab the handrail, down two steps, then 4 yards or so to car. It took a few minutes, then gradually each step took longer and longer, so I then used a wheelchair. Getting from wheelchair to car, and vice versa on return, took a little while, but gradually longer and longer.
Then one day, when in the car, she said she was frightened to get out of the car. It took 40 mins to persuade her to get out of the car and into wheelchair, and sometimes OK but often not.
At it's worst, when trying to go to the memory singers at 2.30pm (a 10 or 15 minute drive depending on traffic) I had to arrange a v early lunch/brunch (about 12 noon), to start the journey - getting shoes on, coat on, then getting OH into wheelchair in the house, before 1.00pm at the latest!, usually starting at 12.30pm. Then all over again when event finished at 4.00pm, to try and be home indoors by 6.00pm! Then people wondered what I did all day! (I just wondered why!)

 

[Knitandpurl]

Yes, things definitely go backwards. I can remember when the children were babies it could take all morning just to get the breakfast dishes washed. Do you think this is what they mean when they talk of a second childhood! 😁

 

[Banjomansmate]

Yes, things definitely go backwards. I can remember when the children were babies it could take all morning just to get the breakfast dishes washed. Do you think this is what they mean when they talk of a second childhood! 😁

I remember it well.

 

[Chizz]

Yes, things definitely go backwards. I can remember when the children were babies it could take all morning just to get the breakfast dishes washed. Do you think this is what they mean when they talk of a second childhood! 😁

But @Knitandpurl what if, like me, I haven't left my first childhood yet!😊

 

[Knitandpurl]

But @Knitandpurl what if, like me, I haven't left my first childhood yet!😊

Then make sure you are still enjoying all the really good bits- hope you’ve booked for this years pantomine….. unfortunately I still really enjoy them but OH fell asleep 😴…… obviously not part of his childhood.

 

[sdmhred]

The rollercoaster has continued here. Poor mum is finding perhaps every other day that her brain just finds the standing up and walking too hard 😭😭 I can see it in her face that she literally does not know what to do and following instructions is too difficult and scary 😭😭

we had another paramedic call out after she put herself on the floor - 4 adults couldn’t get her up and they needed the blow up cushion thingy. She herself has realised she needs more help and needs to be somewhere with more staff and equipment.

We‘re therefore in process of arranging some respite. I have found somewhere which 🙏🙏🙏 is good. It’s an old manor building with garden which she will like. All the staff I have met so far have been very personable and the assessment was done with respect and care. They Have queries over her rare physical health condition which we need to sort out over the next few days.

Were both sad but accepting. Mum needs more than I can provide. She’s fed up with sitting in the same chair all day and there will be some stimulation for her.

day by day …..

And as for work would u believe they never replied to my unpaid leave request- I had to chase them up 🙈🙈 I soo look forward to hopefully find an employer who actually do show their workforce they are valued……

 

[sdmhred]

We had a lovely moment last night. Mum was using ‘Connie Commode’. She’s gradually learning its safe - we sit quiet and are both relieved when we hear the ‘tinkle’ landing safely in the pot 🙈🙈

My sister tells me u can get kids potties that sing when they’re used successfully - mum and I then launched into a rendition of ‘Twinkle Twinkle little star’ - I have no recollection Of ever singing with her - it was lovely 🥰🥰🥰

I did try to turn it into a tinklE tinkle little wee song but my poetic skills were not up to it 🤣🤣🤣

 

[nitram]

I did try to turn it into a tinklE tinkle little wee song but my poetic skills were not up to it

Cue forum poeta @Neveradullday!

 

[Neveradullday!]

Tinkle tinkle little wee,
You're not here, where can you be? 🤔
In the bladder, hiding there,
We'll just wait without a care. 😏

Tinkle tinkle little wee,
What's that sound? Oh yes, yippee!!! 😀

 

[Neveradullday!]

I did try to turn it into a tinklE tinkle little wee song but my poetic skills were not up to it 🤣🤣🤣

Your poetic skills ARE up to it, @sdmhred , they're just hidden at the moment.

Take my example, up to a few short months ago I was a nobody in the world of verse. Now? On the verge of having my first anthology published.😏

 

[Banjomansmate]

👏

 

[Neveradullday!]

👏

Obeisances, @Banjomansmate 😌

 

[sdmhred]

The lady with d and I love our new ‘Tinkle‘ poem….
We hope it will bring laughs and smiles to commodes across the country and beyond!

indeed @Neveradullday! is DSF resident poet laureate - I do hope the Alzheimer’s society magazine take note and start publishing before the big guns wade in!!

 

[Neveradullday!]

What a wonderful thought, @sdmhred "....it will bring laughs and smiles to commodes across the country and beyond!" I'll know I've really made it if that comes to pass. 😊 I'm sure it will. Will it go to my head? Hope not - but one can never tell. 😌

"....the big guns...."? A matter of weeks, I'd guess. 😏

 

[sdmhred]

If I was a scientfic entrepreneur I would design a commode with a heated seat which was also suitable for the Prevention of pressure sores….it would also have a cup holder for mum’s cuppa and @colpatben ’s Patsy’s GnT.

It would also come with a blanket which could be draped over so the user could sit for hours in comfort, warmth and privacy…

If @Neveradullday! came to some sort of loyalty arrangement the Tinkle Poem could also be added on to premium models……

And my wicked brain has just thought a second verse is also needed 🙈🙈🤣🤣

 

[nitram]

And my wicked brain has just thought a second verse is also needed

Verse number 2 ????

 

[Neveradullday!]

Tinkle tinkle little wee,
You're not coming, no siree.
Better turn the warm seat on,
"Cuppa tea with lemon bun?"

Drape a blanket on those knees,
Don't forget the G n T!🥴

 

[Neveradullday!]

If @Neveradullday! came to some sort of loyalty arrangement the Tinkle Poem could also be added on to premium models……

Yes, I would agree to this in principle. 😌

 

[sdmhred]

🤣🤣🤣 love It…….but I was also thinking of a nu 2 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈

but perhaps that would be dragging poetic skills down into the gutter far too much 🙈🙈

 

[Neveradullday!]

Ah! Apologies - where's me pen?