Well my mum was diagnosed yesterday with dementia, my dad can't remember the form of dementia tho as he had a house visit which none of us knew about . Anyways my dad up till know has buried his head in the sand about all this and just got on with it not telling me or my brother how bad it's really getting, until last night when he broke down.
We are there for support because we know he needs it just as much if not more than my mam... My mam is aggressive towards him, doesn't recognise him as her Gerald just a Gerald someone who wants to take her away.
We try to persuade him to have me time he agrees then when we leave an hour later it's a phone call to say he can cope and she doesn't want him to go out so all arrangements then are called off.
Its so frustrating because you can see that when she looks at him it's with a look of hatred now and distrust that 52 years of marriage is wiped away by this illness and its so hard for him to accept this.
Well have to leave it there as can't see now for the tears, thanks for the chance to have a rant and my thoughts are out there for all that are living or caring for someone with this type of illness
We are there for support because we know he needs it just as much if not more than my mam... My mam is aggressive towards him, doesn't recognise him as her Gerald just a Gerald someone who wants to take her away.
We try to persuade him to have me time he agrees then when we leave an hour later it's a phone call to say he can cope and she doesn't want him to go out so all arrangements then are called off.
Its so frustrating because you can see that when she looks at him it's with a look of hatred now and distrust that 52 years of marriage is wiped away by this illness and its so hard for him to accept this.
Well have to leave it there as can't see now for the tears, thanks for the chance to have a rant and my thoughts are out there for all that are living or caring for someone with this type of illness