Hi
I saw this site and thought it may help to answer some of the questions I have - what better way than from people who are suffering, or have loved ones who are suffering,
My mum has been in a dementia care-home for the last three years having shown signs of deterioration for a long time. She has Vascular dementia.
She is 94 years old but is physically good for someone of her age. However her mental capacity has worsened. When she speaks it makes little sense, and from a loving. cuddly person she often flinches at our touch.
Recently - the last few weeks - she seems to sleep most of the day. She increasingly isolates herself more from the rest of the people. I spoke with the care-home today with some questions and for the first time the term "last stage" of dementia was mentioned.
I asked the question I think most people would: what does this mean in terms of mum's life going forward? So I wondered if that was a question someone on here may have experience of. Not so much an answer as I hope and pray mum has many years ahead - but what are other people's experience when told that a loved-one is at or approaching "last stage".
I don't know what it means but it sounds so final and makes me so sad. I thought about trying to stimulate her with puzzles, game, music. When I look at her she seems to be lost - speaks of how much she hates being in the care-home but I wouldn't know how to care for her and for this I feel guilty and ashamed I can't do more for her. The people who look after her say that there'll be more bad days ahead but to just be with her as much as we can.
I don't really know the difference when people talk about the different types of dementia. Mum has vascular dementia as I said earlier what exactly does that mean, and how does it differ to early-onset or Alzheimer's ?
She still recognises us, and some days I catch a little bit of her magic. Sorry rambling a bit.
Thanks and we would be thankful for any advice
I saw this site and thought it may help to answer some of the questions I have - what better way than from people who are suffering, or have loved ones who are suffering,
My mum has been in a dementia care-home for the last three years having shown signs of deterioration for a long time. She has Vascular dementia.
She is 94 years old but is physically good for someone of her age. However her mental capacity has worsened. When she speaks it makes little sense, and from a loving. cuddly person she often flinches at our touch.
Recently - the last few weeks - she seems to sleep most of the day. She increasingly isolates herself more from the rest of the people. I spoke with the care-home today with some questions and for the first time the term "last stage" of dementia was mentioned.
I asked the question I think most people would: what does this mean in terms of mum's life going forward? So I wondered if that was a question someone on here may have experience of. Not so much an answer as I hope and pray mum has many years ahead - but what are other people's experience when told that a loved-one is at or approaching "last stage".
I don't know what it means but it sounds so final and makes me so sad. I thought about trying to stimulate her with puzzles, game, music. When I look at her she seems to be lost - speaks of how much she hates being in the care-home but I wouldn't know how to care for her and for this I feel guilty and ashamed I can't do more for her. The people who look after her say that there'll be more bad days ahead but to just be with her as much as we can.
I don't really know the difference when people talk about the different types of dementia. Mum has vascular dementia as I said earlier what exactly does that mean, and how does it differ to early-onset or Alzheimer's ?
She still recognises us, and some days I catch a little bit of her magic. Sorry rambling a bit.
Thanks and we would be thankful for any advice