Hi everyone - thanks for that Sage advice - whst I would I do without you!
Violet my family know I’m moving back - it’s about 10 miles away but I do work as a teacher and I live on my own. It would really be too much for me to do more thsn I’m doing. which Is not much. I’m happy to help out as I’m nearer but I don‘t want to be the ‘go to’ which is what happened when I lived next door. People forget that when you’re on your own you have to do more thsn if you are a couple running a home. I also to build my dancing business up again which takes a lot of time.
I expect that’s what the sw will say that as I’m nearer I can do a lot more but I really cannot do much for mum other than sharing the housework. This is why I’m driving for some sort of care instead of mum being left marooned relying on us. I’m in my 60s (with a physical job teaching dancing) and brother is 72.
Ive dropped a couple of meals with mum and I’m interested if she uses the microwave! This was suggested by the gp’s surgery so Mum could get used to meals on wheels.
The problem is two pronged - a mother - (who is absolutely adorable - think `Julie walters ) who is paraonod about people knowing her business, likes being alone and very independent. The other is ‘you know who’ retired with plenty of time on his hands, running everything from his palatial home, complete control of a lot of money which he is reluctant to part with. Anytime I suggest anything to mum it’s dismissed out of hand and I have get the rubber stamp from brother after I’ve got the agreement from mum. It’s extremely tedious and demeaning.
I feel I’m not trusted Tbh. If I spend any money on mum I have to ask my brother for the money back and then he decides if it’s going to be paid. I got a parking ticket when I took mum to hospital I asked if half of it could be paid out of mum’s money a decision will be after the meeting with the sw. Often I just pay for things it’s easier.
Applying for AA is a hangable offence because I’ve not got permission from mum and gone behind her back, doing the smi means the same thing. There‘ll be an inquest if it comes up her bank statements! It’s not the money it’s control.
Also done a credit score with experian that may reveal some info.
im waiting for the reaction if or when the OPG contact my brother.
Violet my family know I’m moving back - it’s about 10 miles away but I do work as a teacher and I live on my own. It would really be too much for me to do more thsn I’m doing. which Is not much. I’m happy to help out as I’m nearer but I don‘t want to be the ‘go to’ which is what happened when I lived next door. People forget that when you’re on your own you have to do more thsn if you are a couple running a home. I also to build my dancing business up again which takes a lot of time.
I expect that’s what the sw will say that as I’m nearer I can do a lot more but I really cannot do much for mum other than sharing the housework. This is why I’m driving for some sort of care instead of mum being left marooned relying on us. I’m in my 60s (with a physical job teaching dancing) and brother is 72.
Ive dropped a couple of meals with mum and I’m interested if she uses the microwave! This was suggested by the gp’s surgery so Mum could get used to meals on wheels.
The problem is two pronged - a mother - (who is absolutely adorable - think `Julie walters ) who is paraonod about people knowing her business, likes being alone and very independent. The other is ‘you know who’ retired with plenty of time on his hands, running everything from his palatial home, complete control of a lot of money which he is reluctant to part with. Anytime I suggest anything to mum it’s dismissed out of hand and I have get the rubber stamp from brother after I’ve got the agreement from mum. It’s extremely tedious and demeaning.
I feel I’m not trusted Tbh. If I spend any money on mum I have to ask my brother for the money back and then he decides if it’s going to be paid. I got a parking ticket when I took mum to hospital I asked if half of it could be paid out of mum’s money a decision will be after the meeting with the sw. Often I just pay for things it’s easier.
Applying for AA is a hangable offence because I’ve not got permission from mum and gone behind her back, doing the smi means the same thing. There‘ll be an inquest if it comes up her bank statements! It’s not the money it’s control.
Also done a credit score with experian that may reveal some info.
im waiting for the reaction if or when the OPG contact my brother.