Hi all, I’m Lucy.
My mum was diagnosed with Alzheimers disease a few years ago but has been living on her own in sheltered accommodation for the past 7 years. She had a stroke about 10years before her diagnosis and I’m not sure if it is related but noticing the signs of her progressive disease has been difficult as the stroke already left her struggling to find words and meant she is very different to the person I grew up with.
She had a heart attack at the beginning of October this year and since then we have been in a downward spiral. I live in Essex and she lives in Lancashire. I have taken time off work, I’m a teacher, to look after her at home. I also have two young boys, aged 6 and 8. She came to stay with me last week but has decided to go home soon and I am so worried.
Things seem a lot worse than I realised, she talks in riddles, doesn’t stick to one story she goes off on tangents all the time. She got really angry with me yesterday for asking a simple question and she refused to talk to me for the rest of the day. She hadn’t washed her clothes in months, she struggles to wash herself and often just stays in pyjamas all day. She had a partner who looked after and took her out for meals but their relationship broke down last week, this was the trigger for her coming to stay with me. I’m worried that she won’t eat, won’t/can’t clean herself or her house. I’m worried that if she falls no-one will know. She wants to live on her own but I can’t help her. I live too far away, have too many commitments with my children and my job which I only started in September and I don’t know what to do.
She is only 67.
I don’t know what to do.
My mum was diagnosed with Alzheimers disease a few years ago but has been living on her own in sheltered accommodation for the past 7 years. She had a stroke about 10years before her diagnosis and I’m not sure if it is related but noticing the signs of her progressive disease has been difficult as the stroke already left her struggling to find words and meant she is very different to the person I grew up with.
She had a heart attack at the beginning of October this year and since then we have been in a downward spiral. I live in Essex and she lives in Lancashire. I have taken time off work, I’m a teacher, to look after her at home. I also have two young boys, aged 6 and 8. She came to stay with me last week but has decided to go home soon and I am so worried.
Things seem a lot worse than I realised, she talks in riddles, doesn’t stick to one story she goes off on tangents all the time. She got really angry with me yesterday for asking a simple question and she refused to talk to me for the rest of the day. She hadn’t washed her clothes in months, she struggles to wash herself and often just stays in pyjamas all day. She had a partner who looked after and took her out for meals but their relationship broke down last week, this was the trigger for her coming to stay with me. I’m worried that she won’t eat, won’t/can’t clean herself or her house. I’m worried that if she falls no-one will know. She wants to live on her own but I can’t help her. I live too far away, have too many commitments with my children and my job which I only started in September and I don’t know what to do.
She is only 67.
I don’t know what to do.