Hello @Kath610 .Hello @Skylark/2 , keep hold of that A4 sheet and make sure someone from the memory clinic sees it. Or someone from the local Alzheimer's Society or Adult Social Care. Ring the Memory Clinic and speak to someone rather than emailing them. And Don't apologise to them - you are asking them to do their job and repeated calls will emphasise the scale of your problem.
My husband is a lot calmer now but I'm under no illusion that the problem is solved. He is still a pain in the b** (well in mine anyway!) and I still have my escape strategies in place. If he started on again about selling the house I would be tempted to say - and have said - right go on then, it's in joint names so I will get half. I will use my half to rent somewhere and your half will go on care home fees because you would have difficulty looking after yourself.
Quite apart from the fact that he wouldn't know where to start, this seems quite a happy outcome as far as I'm concerned. I have a meeting set up with a representative from our local branch of the Alzheimer's Society on Monday, set up by the doctor from the Memory Clinic, to do a carer's assessment . My husband really can't see why I need one and will be earwigging like mad so I will prepare a report in advance or send an email.
I have also set up - some time ago - a family WhatsApp group so I can keep my sons and daughters in law advised as to what's going on. That way they know exactly what things are like for both of us and my husband has no knowledge of what's being said. Would that be of any use to you?
So on to another day! Looking after the grandsons again so out with the trains and Megablocks for my husband to hog while the toddler plays with something else because he can't get a look in. Thinking of you and best wishes xx
thank you for the reply and once again good advice! I will keep A4 sheet of paper and produce it if needs be. My husband use to accuse me of complying an accusatory lists against him, ( not true) and now I’m starting to save his written accusations. Not being tech savvy, I don’t use WhatsApp, another good piece of advice so I shall ask my great niece or neighbour for help. We talk to our son who lives in the States every Saturday via Skype but husband is sitting beside me on the settee , so conversation is sometimes stilted. Other son who lives a couple of hours drive away is visiting tomorrow. Dr from memory clinic who we saw a couple of days ago mentioned asking the Alzheimer’s society to contact me, I wonder if this will be the same as your assessment? Please let me know how it goes.
Collected the form yesterday that dr. has to fill in so I can claim council tax reduction. I’d waited days for him to do it BUT when I looked at it , the g.p hadn’t filled it in correctly…..it asks for dates when Alzheimer’s was first noted. GP had just written dementia in box! Had to return form today and who knows when it will be corrected! So annoying, so slap dash on g.p’s part!
We had an early night last night, slept well and so far today all is well. I’ve even had a small victory, negotiating a new contract with Sky, being polite but firm worked wonders…….pity can’t be said when talking to husband!
Enjoy your grandsons…….and look forward to glass of wine this evening.