Hello everyone, Wishing everyone continuing strength and resilience in 2024.
I haven’t posted recently so I thought I’d give an update. After months of verbal abuse my O.H seemed to deteriorate in the last few weeks. Every morning, after almost no sleep, I would wonder what the day would bring. By the afternoon, he would get increasingly agitated and aggressive and this progressed to physical aggression, pushing and slapping around my head. Extremely upsetting and frightening, unable to phone for help as he took my bag and threw it into the garden, blocking my exit to the front door.
I phoned the memory clinic to report this ( he was starting Memantine ) and a CPN came and visited and carried out a review. She suggested in addition an antipsychotic drug, a low dose, and also to hide my kitchen knives!After another ‘ episode’ I again contacted the clinic and they suggested an appointment later the same day. After chatting to the psychiatrist she suggested increasing the antipsychotic drug strength plus diazepam to help with the sleepless nights. The dr. also said that because of the physical abuse she would need to report it to the police as a safeguarding issue. I thought I would just be a name on their computer. Imagine my shock when 2 policeman turned upon our doorstep that same night! They were very nice, one chatted to my husband, the other one to me in the kitchen. I am now on their computer , red flagged as a vulnerable person. Husband was none too pleased to have police in the house asking questions, but I blamed the hospital dr., nothing to do with me!
Since New Year ( I know it’s early days ) my husband seems much calmer and I don’t feel as stressed. The memory clinic dr’s and CPN‘s have been so supportive and understanding, phoning most days just to check how things are.
I haven’t posted recently so I thought I’d give an update. After months of verbal abuse my O.H seemed to deteriorate in the last few weeks. Every morning, after almost no sleep, I would wonder what the day would bring. By the afternoon, he would get increasingly agitated and aggressive and this progressed to physical aggression, pushing and slapping around my head. Extremely upsetting and frightening, unable to phone for help as he took my bag and threw it into the garden, blocking my exit to the front door.
I phoned the memory clinic to report this ( he was starting Memantine ) and a CPN came and visited and carried out a review. She suggested in addition an antipsychotic drug, a low dose, and also to hide my kitchen knives!After another ‘ episode’ I again contacted the clinic and they suggested an appointment later the same day. After chatting to the psychiatrist she suggested increasing the antipsychotic drug strength plus diazepam to help with the sleepless nights. The dr. also said that because of the physical abuse she would need to report it to the police as a safeguarding issue. I thought I would just be a name on their computer. Imagine my shock when 2 policeman turned upon our doorstep that same night! They were very nice, one chatted to my husband, the other one to me in the kitchen. I am now on their computer , red flagged as a vulnerable person. Husband was none too pleased to have police in the house asking questions, but I blamed the hospital dr., nothing to do with me!
Since New Year ( I know it’s early days ) my husband seems much calmer and I don’t feel as stressed. The memory clinic dr’s and CPN‘s have been so supportive and understanding, phoning most days just to check how things are.