I've been handed a lifeline

Discussion in 'ARCHIVE FORUM: Support discussions' started by elaine n, Jun 22, 2011.

  1. elaine n

    elaine n Registered User

    Jun 1, 2010
    4,565
    west country uk
    After months of broken nights and weeks of not being able to leave Gary on his own, not being able to go to the loo without him trying to get into the bathroom or do anything in the house without him hovering near me, watching, panicking if I go out to the dustbin and forget to tell him what I'm doing, I've been offered a sitter for two hours, two days a week and a place at a day hospital one day a week for assessment! I feel like I've won the lottery at the moment and if things change later and he can't continue with what's on offer at least I've got some help now, I just need to make the most of it! :)
     
  2. Amy

    Amy Registered User

    Jan 4, 2006
    3,453
    Thats good news Elaine:)
    Amy
     
  3. jenniferpa

    jenniferpa Volunteer Moderator

    Jun 27, 2006
    39,432
    Very good news Elaine.
     
  4. elaine n

    elaine n Registered User

    Jun 1, 2010
    4,565
    west country uk
    Thank you :)

    We've got a new cpn who responded immediately to a crisis a few weeks ago, think she's going to be a good one
     
  5. CaPattinson

    CaPattinson Registered User

    May 19, 2010
    11,730
    West Yorks
    Phew Elaine!! I am thrilled for you! Its about time too!
    Just what you deserve! Now you will have some time to
    yourself you'll be able to recharge your batteries!
    Relax and just be YOU and only you for a while every week!!!
    So what have you got planned? When does it start, Who is
    organising it? :D:D So nosey I know, sorry:rolleyes:
     
  6. creativesarah

    creativesarah Registered User

    That is such good news
    I'm so glad you deserve all the help you can get
    thanks for the card and enclosure!
    I love poppies too guess thats why i take lots of pictures of them;)
     
  7. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,361
    Kent
    Wonderful news Elaine and a good CPN is a gift.
     
  8. elaine n

    elaine n Registered User

    Jun 1, 2010
    4,565
    west country uk
    Thanks all
    chris, this sounds a bit pathetic but I have no idea what to do with the time :(
    I've lost touch with most people now, they drift away you know
    I may just enjoy spending time on my own in the house, we''l see. The sitter is allowed to take Gary out which I think would be good for him :)
     
  9. Margaret79

    Margaret79 Registered User

    Oh Elaine, I was sooo pleased to read this. You so deserve some time to yourself. Hope Gary will enjoy his time with other people too. Winners all round hopefully. xxx
     
  10. BeckyJan

    BeckyJan Registered User

    Nov 28, 2005
    18,972
    Derbyshire
    I feel thrilled for you Elaine and know how important it is.
    When I first had time to myself I enjoyed being alone with the music LOUD. But I do think its important to get involved with the rest of the world and hopefully a new hobby/interest. When you are ready I guess thats what you will do.
     
  11. turbo

    turbo Registered User

    Aug 1, 2007
    3,851
    Hello Elaine, lovely news.


    Turbo
     
  12. danny

    danny Registered User

    Hi Elaine. This is good news.

    Remember it is `me ` time.

    Go and have a massage or your nails done:)

    On a serious note it is so important to get Gary used to you not being there all the time
    so when the carer comes try and go out yourself or let them take Gary out.

    I hope everything goes well.

    Best wishes, Angela.
     
  13. elaine n

    elaine n Registered User

    Jun 1, 2010
    4,565
    west country uk
    Maybe I'll be able to get out with my camera without a dog and husband in tow to worry about! :)
     
  14. sunny

    sunny Registered User

    Sep 1, 2006
    598
    very good news to hear that you have help. As you mention a camera, why dont you enter the Countryfile calendar photographic competition details on the Countryfile website. Just a suggestion for a new project to fit in with your new "me" time.
     
  15. Christin

    Christin Registered User

    Jun 29, 2009
    5,038
    Somerset
    Hello Elaine, great news! Enjoy yourself :)
     
  16. CaPattinson

    CaPattinson Registered User

    May 19, 2010
    11,730
    West Yorks
    :D:D I know!!!! You could go out and take photos!!!:D:D;);)

    TBH Just spending time alone in the house will be good tho.
    Just relaxing, wandering around with no one following, just pleasing
    yourself is not a bad idea!

    People do drift away over time its true, so now maybe its time for
    something completely different. You need to 'find yourself again' :rolleyes:
    so quiet contemplation at home won't do any harm.
     
  17. PostTenebrasLux

    PostTenebrasLux Registered User

    Mar 16, 2010
    768
    London & Oxford
    at last... Enjoy Elaine, make the very most of ME time!
    even if it were to have a proper nap, knowing that you can quietly sleep...
    wash your hair and tae the time to condition it too...
    go for a walk, to the cinema...

    ME, ME, ME time! well deserved!
     
  18. Jo1958

    Jo1958 Registered User

    Mar 31, 2010
    3,724
    Yorkshire
    Elaine, hi
    I'm so pleased for you and know exactly what you mean by 'what will I do', I have to go out as hubby and sitter are happy watching DVDs or listening to music, I walk, walk in the rain or whatever and it's so good.
    Gary will be fine, and I hope get's as much out of his time with a sitter as hubby does.
    Great news and it's the way to go.
    With kind regards from Jo
     
  19. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,438
    Female
    Dundee
    That's wonderful news Elaine. I knew someone who got respite like this and the Princess Royal Trust for Carers organised therapy sessions for her - things like reflexology etc. I wonder if it would be worth seeing if they have anything on offer in your area. x
     
  20. elaine n

    elaine n Registered User

    Jun 1, 2010
    4,565
    west country uk
    Blimey! the world's my oyster!...how far can I get and back in a couple of hours?!:D:D:D
     

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