I imagine I'll probably need TPers just as much when he's in a nursing home situation! The situation will be different, in that I will be getting sleep and not having the constant wearing down of trying to get meds in to William, trying to get him dressed, trying to get incontinence pads changed when he won't allow me to etc. but I'm sure there will be a whole new set of concerns to take their place! Especially as time goes on.
A very hard decision - and the caring does not cease just because the loved one goes into a NH. I still find myself wandering around the supermarket looking for little tidbits and sweets to take my husband plus anything else I can think of to stimulate him. I have to say that on difficult days I am still left to coax meds in when the drugs trolley does its round and most days I attend to washing, shaving and catheter care if I arrive in time.
At least eventually the sleep routine returns to something like normal and I find I manage to sleep for six/seven hours now instead of the three/four fragmented (if I was lucky) before.
My thoughts are with you at this next stage - it is all hard and stressful.