OK, the decision's made (well almost!).
Had my interview with the Psychiatric Liaison Nurse -- he's called Jim and he's gorgeous! He convinced me that I wouldn't cope, and it wouldn't be in John's interest (or mine) to try, and fail. The doctor said I could have until Monday to make up my mind.
Then I went back to the two homes I'd been considering, the older one John was going to for respite, and the new one that I liked. The older one hasn't a bed available at the moment, and I didn't like the look of it this afternoon, so I was quite glad. Also, I'd asked for a brochure on my first visit, and they'd promised to send me one. I hadn't received it, so I asked again, and they still didn't have one available. Not good PR.
The new one has a long waiting list for residential, but have a vacancy in the EMI unit. Came home and rang SW. He's backed my decision, and the free personal care is OK, but to get the extra nursing funding for the EMI unit John will have to be assessed, and it will have to go before the funding panel. As the assessment will be done by Jim, there shouldn't be any problem there, and SW thinks the panel will go along with his assessment. The hospital will have to keep John until this is all agreed.
So! Decision made (I think
). Everything's now in the hands of my SW, whom I trust. So why do I feel so miserable?