This is my first post on here and I welcome any advice at all on my situation. My dear dad has Alzheimers (diagnosed 2.5 years ago),and has coped really well living on his own so far. When I went through a messy split with my ex about 2 years ago (he threw me out on the streets and I didnt have anywhere for me and my kids to live for ages) I chose not to tell dad what troubles I was going through.I knew he would worry and i thought it might speed up his disease. Little did I know that my spiteful ex would run to him with lies of my "abandonment" of my family and worry him to death.
I thought I'd straightened it all out with dad not not long ago, and he was so relieved the tales he'd been told were untrue. He confessed he was struggling with his finances and asked me to help look through bank statements as he felt his money was going missing. He also asked me could he come and live with me, something we had agreed to at the time of his diagnosis.
To my absolute HORROR I have discovered he has made cheques out to an old friend of my deceased mother for THOUSANDS of pounds. I had the bank pull the cheques up and even the writing on some of them is fraudulent. The bank want me to call the police. That was yesterday.
Today my nightmare climaxed when dad found some papers in his bedroom showing that this "friend" has not only attempted to change his will, but has a registered EPA dated Feb 2007. The proposed will (not sure if its actually been made yet because they couldnt get him to go to a doctors appointment) benefits ONLY the "friend" and guess who....my EX!!!
I am dads only child. He is so angry and upset he's been hoodwinked into signing forms and having his money taken. He's still very clear that he wants to live with me and that he wants me to look after his money. He says he remembers signing the forms but he had been told I had "run off" and couldnt be found....UTTER LIES! They all knew exactly where I lived and my phone number, and I was never contacted about the EPA. I sent cards and letters to dad of which I can find no trace. Ive also found an investment made by dad 2 months ago for £10,000 payable to his estate on his death.He didnt know what the hell it was! Now he's worried beyond belief that he will have to go in a home at this "friends'" say so, and we are both worried we will not be able to have the EPA revoked as his biggest problem is not only his short term memory but his speech....he gets really muddled. He KNOWS what he wants but cant express it succinctly, unless hes angry. He's suspected the "friend" for ages but he was scared people would think he'd been stupid, and would think he was just crazy. I am out of my mind with worry. I will go to a solicitor of course asap, but if anyone has had a similar experience I would love to hear from them.
I thought I'd straightened it all out with dad not not long ago, and he was so relieved the tales he'd been told were untrue. He confessed he was struggling with his finances and asked me to help look through bank statements as he felt his money was going missing. He also asked me could he come and live with me, something we had agreed to at the time of his diagnosis.
To my absolute HORROR I have discovered he has made cheques out to an old friend of my deceased mother for THOUSANDS of pounds. I had the bank pull the cheques up and even the writing on some of them is fraudulent. The bank want me to call the police. That was yesterday.
Today my nightmare climaxed when dad found some papers in his bedroom showing that this "friend" has not only attempted to change his will, but has a registered EPA dated Feb 2007. The proposed will (not sure if its actually been made yet because they couldnt get him to go to a doctors appointment) benefits ONLY the "friend" and guess who....my EX!!!
I am dads only child. He is so angry and upset he's been hoodwinked into signing forms and having his money taken. He's still very clear that he wants to live with me and that he wants me to look after his money. He says he remembers signing the forms but he had been told I had "run off" and couldnt be found....UTTER LIES! They all knew exactly where I lived and my phone number, and I was never contacted about the EPA. I sent cards and letters to dad of which I can find no trace. Ive also found an investment made by dad 2 months ago for £10,000 payable to his estate on his death.He didnt know what the hell it was! Now he's worried beyond belief that he will have to go in a home at this "friends'" say so, and we are both worried we will not be able to have the EPA revoked as his biggest problem is not only his short term memory but his speech....he gets really muddled. He KNOWS what he wants but cant express it succinctly, unless hes angry. He's suspected the "friend" for ages but he was scared people would think he'd been stupid, and would think he was just crazy. I am out of my mind with worry. I will go to a solicitor of course asap, but if anyone has had a similar experience I would love to hear from them.