I'd be really grateful for some advice. My mum (81) has recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. She is cared for by my dad (also 81) and until recently this has worked well. My dad is also showing signs memory problems, so I have booked us a GP appointment next week to start the long process of being referred to the memory clinic. I live close by and have now taken over handling their finances and any other support they need.
We recently had a problem with my mum taking too many of her new medication which made her very sick. I've since spoken to the chemist and they both now have dosset boxes which they are getting on well with. They are both fairly mobile, although a little frail, but are managing to look after themselves in terms of shopping, cooking and personal care. I would like to start some kind of home help to look in on them regularly, but other than oversee their medication, I'm not sure what else the home help would do.
My dad is very open to this, but my mum is fairly adamant that she doesn't want 'strangers in the house'. They have a regular cleaner who comes in via an agency, but my mum is convinced that she has been stealing items from the bathroom- I'm sure this is because of the dementia. I've changed their cleaner this week to the same woman I have and have explained my mum's condition to her in case the same thing happens again.
I can pop in to see them myself regularly, but not every day. I'm worried about what happens when I go on holiday in the summer, so would like to start home help soon, so my mum can get used to it.
Does anyone have any experience of introducing home help when it isn't welcomed, or possibly not really needed just yet? I'm concerned that my mum will become more fixed in her determination not to have it, but I'm increasingly concerned for my dad's welfare.
Thanks so much for your advice- I've really been losing sleep over this.
We recently had a problem with my mum taking too many of her new medication which made her very sick. I've since spoken to the chemist and they both now have dosset boxes which they are getting on well with. They are both fairly mobile, although a little frail, but are managing to look after themselves in terms of shopping, cooking and personal care. I would like to start some kind of home help to look in on them regularly, but other than oversee their medication, I'm not sure what else the home help would do.
My dad is very open to this, but my mum is fairly adamant that she doesn't want 'strangers in the house'. They have a regular cleaner who comes in via an agency, but my mum is convinced that she has been stealing items from the bathroom- I'm sure this is because of the dementia. I've changed their cleaner this week to the same woman I have and have explained my mum's condition to her in case the same thing happens again.
I can pop in to see them myself regularly, but not every day. I'm worried about what happens when I go on holiday in the summer, so would like to start home help soon, so my mum can get used to it.
Does anyone have any experience of introducing home help when it isn't welcomed, or possibly not really needed just yet? I'm concerned that my mum will become more fixed in her determination not to have it, but I'm increasingly concerned for my dad's welfare.
Thanks so much for your advice- I've really been losing sleep over this.