Im struggling.
the doctor has said my father has Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia and we are waiting for our 1st appointment with a geriatric rehabilitation unit, we were told a memory clinic but that did not happen. For the last two months my father believes my mam who passed nov 2020 is alive. It is not a come and go belief, it is all day every day. He has thought she was living with another man or couple, cleaning 2 streets away for 18 hours a day, he has driven round looking for her and asking people if they know her. He has walked around the close he lives in looking for her, i have telephone calls from concerned neighbours. He thinks she is having an affair with a driver as she now works in a big town 20 miles away. She comes home every evening at 11 pm and leaves at 5 am. He has phoned the local council asking for her to come home As he thinks she works for them. They telephoned me and They placed a welfare check on him. Then he drove to an imaginary hospital appointment at midnight and the police traced him through his number plate and called me at 2 am and they were going to put a welfare check in. He refuses to stop driving. He still shops, cuts the grass although he falls, refuses a falls alarm. He cooks and cleans for himself. As he is still cognitive the Social Worker asked if he wanted to go into a care facility or have a carer in and he declined. Now I have had a call from a hospital saying he sounded confused asking for mam and to pass a message on for her, he had made 29 calls to them. He says she has an apartment at the hospital and gets number phone calls saying she is entertaining men for money and is getting diseases. My mam was a lovely quite gentle soul with caring heart who cared for the elderly and mentally challenged. This is breaking my heart to hear this up to 19 calls a day. He is now contacting holiday firms to arrange a holiday for them both and I don’t know what to do, I am a. Lap on his will but as he is still cognitive I now he will get angry if I interfere. He is even thinking of going to the funeral home to get his money back. He says a doctor was concerned at the cremation and checked her and she was alive., but apparently she has been cremated 4 times. If we say she passed away it does not compute, so I just sit and listen for 30-40 mins a time on the phone as I’m disabled. There is more but I feel I will never stop writing. Has anyone else gone through this? I feel so tired, teary and worn out. I apologise if this to long.
the doctor has said my father has Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia and we are waiting for our 1st appointment with a geriatric rehabilitation unit, we were told a memory clinic but that did not happen. For the last two months my father believes my mam who passed nov 2020 is alive. It is not a come and go belief, it is all day every day. He has thought she was living with another man or couple, cleaning 2 streets away for 18 hours a day, he has driven round looking for her and asking people if they know her. He has walked around the close he lives in looking for her, i have telephone calls from concerned neighbours. He thinks she is having an affair with a driver as she now works in a big town 20 miles away. She comes home every evening at 11 pm and leaves at 5 am. He has phoned the local council asking for her to come home As he thinks she works for them. They telephoned me and They placed a welfare check on him. Then he drove to an imaginary hospital appointment at midnight and the police traced him through his number plate and called me at 2 am and they were going to put a welfare check in. He refuses to stop driving. He still shops, cuts the grass although he falls, refuses a falls alarm. He cooks and cleans for himself. As he is still cognitive the Social Worker asked if he wanted to go into a care facility or have a carer in and he declined. Now I have had a call from a hospital saying he sounded confused asking for mam and to pass a message on for her, he had made 29 calls to them. He says she has an apartment at the hospital and gets number phone calls saying she is entertaining men for money and is getting diseases. My mam was a lovely quite gentle soul with caring heart who cared for the elderly and mentally challenged. This is breaking my heart to hear this up to 19 calls a day. He is now contacting holiday firms to arrange a holiday for them both and I don’t know what to do, I am a. Lap on his will but as he is still cognitive I now he will get angry if I interfere. He is even thinking of going to the funeral home to get his money back. He says a doctor was concerned at the cremation and checked her and she was alive., but apparently she has been cremated 4 times. If we say she passed away it does not compute, so I just sit and listen for 30-40 mins a time on the phone as I’m disabled. There is more but I feel I will never stop writing. Has anyone else gone through this? I feel so tired, teary and worn out. I apologise if this to long.
