Hello,
my father in law has Alzheimers for the past 6 years, he was living at home and my sister in law moved in to mind him but is now undergoing Chemotherapy for the 2nd time in 2 years. My father in law moved in with us but became increasingly hard to manage as he needed 24 hour care and we both work full time shift hours and have school going children so we all agreed a care home would have better facilities to look after him. That decision was taken in September and since then has been put out of 2 homes due to outbursts usually at nighttime - these outbursts seem to be that he is looking for something and gong in an out of other resident rooms therefore both homes have sent in in an ambulance to the local hospital where he is now. The carehomes around have assessed him and all refused to take him saying he is unsuitable and therefore is still in hospital. The hospital just called to say he has a place in a home 2 hours away in Mallow - we live in New Ross, his other son lives in Dublin, both daughters live in Waterford city but one has stage 4 cancer so the other is minding her two kids - how can we stop this move, we won't get to see him at all if they take him 2 hours away - he has 10 grandchildren ranging from 25 years down to 12 years old - 4 of them drive but only 2 are able to drive on their own the other 6 don't as they are under age. We are frazzled with this and just don't know where to turn next.
I'm not sure if anyone has any answers for us or if this is just to vent our/my frustrations - I know people can say it could be worse but I absolutely hate to think how isolated he will be 2 hours away from us.
In the 1st home he lost half his clothes, in the hospital he lost his glasses/teeth/coat/shoes/slippers/pyjamas/socks/underwear/trousers/ in the 2nd home he lost glasses/shoes/slippers- he hasn't had teeth in 3 months we can't get them replaced - its soo frustrating and I can't even imagine what's going through his head. The 1st home had covid outbreak we weren't allowed in to see him, the 2nd home we went every day, the hospital locked the ward down due to covid for nearly 3 weeks so overall its been very difficult for him to understand
my father in law has Alzheimers for the past 6 years, he was living at home and my sister in law moved in to mind him but is now undergoing Chemotherapy for the 2nd time in 2 years. My father in law moved in with us but became increasingly hard to manage as he needed 24 hour care and we both work full time shift hours and have school going children so we all agreed a care home would have better facilities to look after him. That decision was taken in September and since then has been put out of 2 homes due to outbursts usually at nighttime - these outbursts seem to be that he is looking for something and gong in an out of other resident rooms therefore both homes have sent in in an ambulance to the local hospital where he is now. The carehomes around have assessed him and all refused to take him saying he is unsuitable and therefore is still in hospital. The hospital just called to say he has a place in a home 2 hours away in Mallow - we live in New Ross, his other son lives in Dublin, both daughters live in Waterford city but one has stage 4 cancer so the other is minding her two kids - how can we stop this move, we won't get to see him at all if they take him 2 hours away - he has 10 grandchildren ranging from 25 years down to 12 years old - 4 of them drive but only 2 are able to drive on their own the other 6 don't as they are under age. We are frazzled with this and just don't know where to turn next.
I'm not sure if anyone has any answers for us or if this is just to vent our/my frustrations - I know people can say it could be worse but I absolutely hate to think how isolated he will be 2 hours away from us.
In the 1st home he lost half his clothes, in the hospital he lost his glasses/teeth/coat/shoes/slippers/pyjamas/socks/underwear/trousers/ in the 2nd home he lost glasses/shoes/slippers- he hasn't had teeth in 3 months we can't get them replaced - its soo frustrating and I can't even imagine what's going through his head. The 1st home had covid outbreak we weren't allowed in to see him, the 2nd home we went every day, the hospital locked the ward down due to covid for nearly 3 weeks so overall its been very difficult for him to understand