The SW at the hospital has been great, setting up meals on wheels, arranging for Age UK to call re cleaning /laundry, but MIL is now saying she manages fine with her daughter who lives nearby, exactly what she said to me a month ago when I suggested a cleaner.
My SIL, however, has quite rightly had enough and has told the AgeUK lady that this wasn't true. So there will be a meeting this week to arrange things with MIL and SIL both present. The one good thing out of all of this is that my SIL now feels empowered to stand her ground and say "I've had enough" and we're all backing her up 100% on that. We're not going to let her slip back into being treated like a doormat, and she is now aware, perhaps for the first time, not to simply believe everything her mother tells her.
If MIL can cope with outside help, that's fine. But if not, then all are agreed that the only other option will be a CH. As I said, interesting times ahead.
My SIL, however, has quite rightly had enough and has told the AgeUK lady that this wasn't true. So there will be a meeting this week to arrange things with MIL and SIL both present. The one good thing out of all of this is that my SIL now feels empowered to stand her ground and say "I've had enough" and we're all backing her up 100% on that. We're not going to let her slip back into being treated like a doormat, and she is now aware, perhaps for the first time, not to simply believe everything her mother tells her.
If MIL can cope with outside help, that's fine. But if not, then all are agreed that the only other option will be a CH. As I said, interesting times ahead.