Helen , hoping the peacfull aura is still surrounding you and you are given the strengh to cope with the coming days,
I would like to tell you all that I still feel wonderfully peaceful and actually 'happy'. I have to admit that it is a bit embarrassing at times as family and friends phone with a sombre voice and there I am chirpy as a cricket and then I try to exlain to them why I am so 'alright'!! My biggest worry is that people will feel that I am relieved to be free from Alan but this couldn't be further from the truth. People keep saying how much of a burden it was dealing with Alan and the dementia and I keep saying "no it wasn't a burden, it was wonderful and our lives became difficult but Alan had a huge value". I know that they can't hear me!! I still feel surrounded by peace and love (very 60's
) but it is true. I still feel it is a victory and that dementia did not win. It would only win if our lives were devastated but they weren't!! Alan is ok and I am ok
Dear Bronwen, from now on my focus is on the living. The dead can take care of the dead but it is the living that need all the assistance that can be given. You and your Trev are the living and you have my full attention and support as you live through such a difficult time.
Love