Thank you Alan never let go of one of the little dogs throughout all the events of his last day on earth and I insisted that it stay in his hand throughout whatever they have to do and that it remain with him as he is lowered into the ground. It was the dog that the grandchildren bought him for Christmas and it barks, pants and wimpers when pressed
I have to admit that tomorrow is the day that I am not looking forward to. There are too many people - all with their own issues - and I wish I didn't have to consider anyone else for just one day!! It's no use telling me to forget other people because it would be like asking a fish to be happy out of water
I'm so sorry you are having to go through all of this and will be thinking of you Helen. Put a little fence around yourself tomorrow to protect you from other people and their issues. Let them float over your head my love. You have enough issues of your own just now
That took me by surprise because it has always felt that you had met him!! I even had to stop and think! When I think of it, the only person on Talking Point to have met Alan is Beckyjan. I am so glad that she did. I remember him swinging on the cupboards in the kitchen with a twinkle in his eye.
Alan's life with dementia was shared on Talking Point and you all gave him value. You rejoiced in his achievements and you grieved at his hardships.
Helen i so know what you mean, i felt i had met Alan. your posts and photos made feel like i had met Alan, the pic that will stay with me , was of Alan swinging on the bridge, , but also your recent photos out on your bikes, loved Alans white polo necked shirts, can tell you Trevs are never that pristine, hope you manage some sleep tonight, at trevs mums funeral ( whom i adored) I became selfish and let my feelings take priorty over my need to look after others, hope you can tomorrow, the basket was an inspirational idea, can picture it in a few weeks..goodnight love pam
I shall be thinking of you too, tomorrow, maybe with a little smile as I remember meeting Alan; he shared his choccies, showed me his family of dogs and swung on the kitchen cabinets! I am very proud to have met him.
I think this is one of the special qualities of TP Helen.
We all have close ones with a terminal illness. We face death every day. We try to share the period leading towards death, the final weeks, days, hours.
We can give as much or as little of ourselves as we wish.
And we want the strength of TP to be all encompassing.