I’ve also just come across this post & all sounds very familiar!I came across this thread whilst trying to find ways to get my Mum to accept a carer coming into the flat. She really doesn't see that she has care needs. She's not taking medication properly, definitely not eating properly (just having toast most of the time that we're not there) and not washing herself (I had a bath yesterday - she didn't!) or dressing properly. The carer started visiting earlier this week and she basically told them where to go. This morning, she'd bolted the door so that they couldn't use the key we left in the key safe for them. My brother thinks he can have a conversation with Mum and give her the options of no care, care at home or residential care, but she will forget having had that conversation. She's not capable of rational thought any more. My sister and I are spending so much time there. Both of us work full-time. She phones constantly. My sister had 18 missed calls yesterday - Mum saying she's lonely (the first call was only 45 minutes after I'd left her yesterday morning). Over the summer was particularly difficult and my younger sister and I both had burnout and are on anti-depressants and having counselling/awaiting psychotherapy.
We've also come to the realisation that it may take a fall (or similar) for things to change and this being taken out of our hands. Not looking for any answers. Just wanted to off load.
My mum started respite today & it’s been very traumatic (see separate post lol)
I think I’ve tried to convince myself that my mum is different - she’s still pretty with it & that anxiety is her problem but the more posts I read, I know I’m kidding myself!
Im also burnt out - I’ve been spending 10-11 hours a day with mum but that’s stopping when she gets home. I’ll continue working from her house in mornings, make her lunch & then go. Ill try to get her to accept an evening carer but I’ve had it with driving backwards & forwards
Take care of yourself @DaisyFrench & you too @Jakesterblack if you’re still about x