I agree with Karen, one of the worst things we have to deal with is looking after Mum's money and trying to decide what is best, when she can't decide for herself. We decided to let her house rather than sell it, but that has meant spending money on updating the electricity and gas central heating, so we can get a landlord's certificate.
Mum has loads of clothes; I've got a whole wardrobe full of them at home and she doesn't "need" any more, but maybe she'd like to have something new. I swap her things around for a change and take in different summer or winter clothes for her.
She loves flowers and I try to keep her room full of plants by tending her pot plants and taking in flowers from my garden, or buying her some with my money. It wouldn't seem right to use her money, but I suppose if I did I could afford to get some nicer flowers.
I think "pocket money" is to buy anything extra, which isn't essential. If somebody is living at home, then their food and clothing would come out of "house-keeping" and the "pocket money" would be for little luxuries, like refreshments, outings, chocolates, a drink in a pub or a trip to the cinema.
Mum's cash fund in the NH is mainly spent on the chiropodist and the hairdresser. Mum's hair always looks like it's just been done and I think she likes the attention, as the hairdresser comes in once a week and is very chatty.
I miss the fact that Mum can no longer write a card or give a present and I wouldn't buy anything for myself with her money, as I'd feel guilty.
It is really sad when people can't make their own decisions any more about what they want.It is as if they are not really part of things any more.
Kayla
Mum has loads of clothes; I've got a whole wardrobe full of them at home and she doesn't "need" any more, but maybe she'd like to have something new. I swap her things around for a change and take in different summer or winter clothes for her.
She loves flowers and I try to keep her room full of plants by tending her pot plants and taking in flowers from my garden, or buying her some with my money. It wouldn't seem right to use her money, but I suppose if I did I could afford to get some nicer flowers.
I think "pocket money" is to buy anything extra, which isn't essential. If somebody is living at home, then their food and clothing would come out of "house-keeping" and the "pocket money" would be for little luxuries, like refreshments, outings, chocolates, a drink in a pub or a trip to the cinema.
Mum's cash fund in the NH is mainly spent on the chiropodist and the hairdresser. Mum's hair always looks like it's just been done and I think she likes the attention, as the hairdresser comes in once a week and is very chatty.
I miss the fact that Mum can no longer write a card or give a present and I wouldn't buy anything for myself with her money, as I'd feel guilty.
It is really sad when people can't make their own decisions any more about what they want.It is as if they are not really part of things any more.
Kayla