Following registration, I’m dutifully keeping receipts and records - including decisions made on mum’s behalf …. (we’re not talking a fortune here) but am really struggling with how much I can be expected to ‘account’ for cash given to mum.
If I ‘ration’ her she becomes anxious that she hasn’t got ‘spare’ money around the house, when I succumb and produce say £200 it is promptly ‘lost’ - or frittered away on nonsense spending when she shops with a friend (expensive handbags she will never use being the latest fad) or food and drink she doesn’t need and often gets thrown away subsequently when she is able to get to the ‘corner shop‘’ (I do all her ‘main shopping’ and provide her meals).
My take on it is that mum’s cash spending is on a par or often less than she had been spending in recent years (cursory appraisal of her bank statements) …. yet I feel I’m not protecting her from frittering money away.
But shouldn’t she be allowed to do some ‘frittering away’ when she can if that makes her happy - she’s not got many pleasures left?
And why do I feel like a crook? I can imagine the PGO asking ‘How much has she lost?‘ - Yeah right!
Registering the EPA was meant to protect her - not punish her and put her on a tight budget - and secondarily to protect me by declaring I was open to any public scrutiny about my handling of her financial affairs - so why do I feel like I have dug both of us into a hole?
Any thoughts, anyone?
Love, Karen, x
If I ‘ration’ her she becomes anxious that she hasn’t got ‘spare’ money around the house, when I succumb and produce say £200 it is promptly ‘lost’ - or frittered away on nonsense spending when she shops with a friend (expensive handbags she will never use being the latest fad) or food and drink she doesn’t need and often gets thrown away subsequently when she is able to get to the ‘corner shop‘’ (I do all her ‘main shopping’ and provide her meals).
My take on it is that mum’s cash spending is on a par or often less than she had been spending in recent years (cursory appraisal of her bank statements) …. yet I feel I’m not protecting her from frittering money away.
But shouldn’t she be allowed to do some ‘frittering away’ when she can if that makes her happy - she’s not got many pleasures left?
And why do I feel like a crook? I can imagine the PGO asking ‘How much has she lost?‘ - Yeah right!
Registering the EPA was meant to protect her - not punish her and put her on a tight budget - and secondarily to protect me by declaring I was open to any public scrutiny about my handling of her financial affairs - so why do I feel like I have dug both of us into a hole?
Any thoughts, anyone?
Love, Karen, x