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Yes but we often forget to be kind to ourselves, & forget we aren’t superhuman. The toll dementia takes on those caring is a sad reality of the system. Your experiences resonate with me as my maternal grandfather had to be regularly sedated & couldn’t eventually be cared for at home.
The distress & agitation escalated & my Grandad was inconsolable. I had two small toddlers at the time & wasn’t able to support my Mum in his care in later years as I did with my Granny. I used to spend a week every month at Mum & Dads so I could do their household chores & look after my Dad who was still working at this point. My husband needed the car for work so it was either him usually dropping us off a 5-6 hour round trip or the train!
The exhaustion & sadness of my Mum & Dad in their loving care of keeping my Grandad in his own home I will never forget. To be a witness to family caring for a PWD wasn’t a positive experience for either myself or my children; but the enduring love, care & commitment was .
Please be kind to yourself, you are doing everything you can but as always Dementia will take its toll.