Eating...not eating...drinking..not drinking


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Feb 27, 2015
Today at 1.30pm my mum sadly passed away. This cruel disease has taken her from me. I went from work to the care home and saw her , along with my brother and sister. I just feel empty, emotional and numb. This is my first death. I don't know why??? As a child My mum was security, there for me if if fell, there to cuddle, i felt safe, loved. Her life was devoted to there children's well being. I feel lost. Cry all the time. Oh, why???? I MISS YOU MUM.
@Andyseam I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you.


Registered User
Aug 23, 2012
I’ve read so much like this and think I want to post this thread to help me track things.

About 3-4 weeks ago mum stopped eating and drinking. She then had a tiny bit before stopping again. She was then admitted with a chest infection 12 days ago and stopped altogether. We’ve managed tiny sips and half a glass of juice here and there.

Yesterday the consultant suggested she had about 2 months left. She’d been on several days of complete food refusal and limited fluids. She was also deteriorating and no longer mobile.

Today we got her out of bed (with difficulty) down to the day room in a wheelchair and spent 60 minutes playing with the doll. She had 40mls of yoghurt and about 140mls of juice. So it all feels different. As I type this I’m realising that my perspective has skewed somewhat if I think 140mls of juice is life changing...

She did quite a big wee which I also find confusing. The kidneys are finding fluid to process