That’s good news that dad is now back in Ch think it’s a better place for him to be and glad you can visit later , hope they clear up soon visiting arrangements .
Maybe not but.... Not sure what is worse, being denied a sip or two of tea if thats what you really want,or the possibility of aspirating it. ( I mean a tsp full not a mug full )but if hes aspirating into the lungs, its not going to be particularly pleasant for wildflowerladys dad. maybe lypsyl and moist lips with the sponges. even handcream for hand massages.
sorry wildflowerlady if ive made it harder on you. thats why i said those sponges then he can suck so only be tiny amount but wet his mouth.lack of communication is not helping. havent they got a discharge letter with instructions on it?I'm really confused about what's happening @Jessbow my gut instinct was same re fluids etc so spoke with Dr at hospital she said she understands and if dad could be sat up they could offer something if he wanted albeit feeding high risk. I mentioned to the Social Worker when she rang me today I said the care home were going to contact the hospital and social worker said about the care home getting a doctor in to see dad to assess she said she would email the manager. Social worker said the care home had been provided with medications to help with dads condition but didn't say what medication. When I saw dad late afternoon the carer looking after dad said they had been trying to contact dads ward but as of then had not got through. Dad slept the entire visit I was told by carer they usually allow 30 mins but said we'll see. I was allowed to be with dad about a hour and 15 mins before another carer said was sorry but visit was over. I didn't see manager suspect she wasn't there but will call them tomorrow. I said to Social Worker it does seem cruel if looks like dad wants something but whether he would accept when offered I don't know. I also think if dads time and end of life what difference does what he wants make because end result is the same dad will pass away and said that to doctor. I really don't know what death is worse but instinct says let dad decide as much as he can and doctor didn't say if dad would suffer more or less either way. ?
End of life is precious and requires the ultimate in comfort. Overall 'environment' being devoid of any " waves " which might have been present earlier on with respect to siblings and so on. Most certainly this requires close observation by nurse/doctor initially in assessing the enabling of this ' comfort'. The Care Home should remove the often overwhelming clinical atmosphere of the busy hospital ward. Compassion and Comfort must prevail at these times. Difficult as they are. There should always be great dignity in the natural closing of any life . The holding of a hand can communicate the 'caring ' essence of a long and difficult journey and engender much more than any words.