My dad has been recently diagnosed and both parents have been finding it v hard to accept as they dont think he is in their words "do lally"
He went to memory clinic this week and told me very enthusiastically how he was going to fight it. He was fluent not looking for words which is unusual but then he fell asleep mid sentence on the phone
On the one hand i know a positive outlook is v helpful but my parents have not accepted getting old and making any kind of adjustments or changes and have always been stuck in their ways and i worry that they might be putting their energy in a dead end when being open tp accepting a little help occasionally may be more useful to continue how they want to live.
The falling asleep mid sentence may be the way my dads body helps him to self regulate with his idea of himself being the same as when he was 30 but as he has had 2 funny turns and im 200 miles away without a car, it concerns me. my mum is a bit fragile but able to go to shops but likes to do itwith him. She keeps him right with meds and appointments. She has always defered anything which sees as complex to dad and he wont always be able to take it in hand to keep her anxiety levels down a bit as he always has done...they also continuously put off anything that needs sorting long term and their hoarding is huge. My brother and i are sorting out lpas with them asap
im concerned that although their attitude is positive, it is unrealistic and they are a closed book to any kind of help or advice...
Any advice?
He went to memory clinic this week and told me very enthusiastically how he was going to fight it. He was fluent not looking for words which is unusual but then he fell asleep mid sentence on the phone
On the one hand i know a positive outlook is v helpful but my parents have not accepted getting old and making any kind of adjustments or changes and have always been stuck in their ways and i worry that they might be putting their energy in a dead end when being open tp accepting a little help occasionally may be more useful to continue how they want to live.
The falling asleep mid sentence may be the way my dads body helps him to self regulate with his idea of himself being the same as when he was 30 but as he has had 2 funny turns and im 200 miles away without a car, it concerns me. my mum is a bit fragile but able to go to shops but likes to do itwith him. She keeps him right with meds and appointments. She has always defered anything which sees as complex to dad and he wont always be able to take it in hand to keep her anxiety levels down a bit as he always has done...they also continuously put off anything that needs sorting long term and their hoarding is huge. My brother and i are sorting out lpas with them asap
im concerned that although their attitude is positive, it is unrealistic and they are a closed book to any kind of help or advice...
Any advice?
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