Hi, I had to make a similar decision a few years ago. I knew it would be an uphill slog and that I might not get anywhere. Ultimately I did go ahead and for two reasons. Firstly I had LPOA for my dad, and when I signed up for that I agreed that I would be making decisions based on what my dad would have wanted, even if it went against my own thoughts and feelings. My dad would have been furious if he knew how he was viewed by the local authority! So at every step, especially when it became emotionally, mentally or intellectually challenging, I kept my dad at the forefront of my mind, this wasn’t about me it was about him. Every day with dementia was a battle for him, my own battle was nothing in comparison.
Secondly, if no one challenges the system then the system will never change.
I won my appeal, with no outside help, I left school at 16 and don’t have any fancy qualifications or anything.