Mum's been in the care home (temporary/assessment basis) for 9 months (can't believe it) now. Having waited a while for a permanent care home place to materialise, one has finally come up. I went to see it with mum a few weeks ago, she clearly didn't like it, and said she didn't want to go there. That was that. Then a week or so ago she started saying she'd like to try it after all. So we had another visit and she was still agreeing to move. I can't get my head round why she changed her mind, but whatever. The social worker contacted me today to say they're thinking of moving her on Friday.
My question is, do people think it's a good idea to be there for the move, or better to let her settle in a bit first and go and see her afterwards? My concern is that if I'm there when she moves in, there might be issues when I then go to leave, especially if she's unsettled by it all. I've got no idea how she will take it all, the social worker said moves can be a step backwards sometimes and I really hope that's not the case for mum.
My question is, do people think it's a good idea to be there for the move, or better to let her settle in a bit first and go and see her afterwards? My concern is that if I'm there when she moves in, there might be issues when I then go to leave, especially if she's unsettled by it all. I've got no idea how she will take it all, the social worker said moves can be a step backwards sometimes and I really hope that's not the case for mum.