Honeymoon over then?!![]()
Yes, I was warned of the potential hostility from the parent PWD to being cared for by their offspring.It is a fact that we read this a lot on TP when a parent moves in with family. Things start out really well, then I don't know, maybe the novelty of it all wears off for everyone, but problems seem to come thick and fast. Possibly there is a subconscious hope within the carer that once in the homely caring family environment, the dementia will improve? Sad!y the dementia doesn't, but I do hope you get more of the good spells, HillyBilly. It can be a relentless task, and you will need as much outside help as you can get in order to recharge the batteries for the daily round.
And because of a vague, or not even so vague, but not understood, knowledge by the PWD that something isn't right, that "things " aren't how they should be - but they don't know how they should be - many PWD simply cannot be content at all. They are left with a constant, vague sense of unease and disquiet and because they don't know what IS the cause, they start blaming all kinds of things "you're telling me what to do /wear/I have no freedom " etc.
Yes, that's the sad reality, isn't it? Mum is all too aware of her memory problems. Also of her incontinence and the restrictions it imposes on her life - the lack of freedom to go anywhere that doesn't have a toilet within 50 yards.
Touch wood a good evening had here. Listening to Tammy Wynette (never even know Mum liked her!) followed by a bit of Elton John on t'interweb.
Mum took herself off to the loo after dinner and as she left the room she let out a huge, long and lingering fart to which she seemed totally oblivious but which reduced OH and I to near hysterics. "I do hope she didn't follow through" was himself's helpful parting comment as I followed Mum out the door![]()
LOL. Yesterday OH was so stressed he went and bought rolling tobacco - and he doesn't even smokeMy mum has been with me for almost 3 years and I sometimes disappear into the garden to scream, cry and then drink whisky!!! not a lot!!