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Sylvia, it's been nearly three years since I joined TP (like many others I 'lurked' for quite some time). Your thread was one of the first I read and I was always touched by your care for Dhiren and his smile.
How lovely that photo shows Dhiren with the sunflowers; the colours are a real tonic-whatever the weather the colour is always one to cheer. I put sunflowers in Pete's coffin flower arrangement as they were his 'favourites'. We used to be quite competitive as to whose sunflowers would grow the tallest every year
I will plant some next year-a new garden that Pete won't have physically been in but I know he will be with me in Spirit. I hope you get comfort from the beautiful roses knowing that Dhiren would have loved them also.
Love
Lyn T XX
Thank you Loo. It's good to see you posting. I know how much effort it takes. Well I don't really know , I just think I know.
It would be my dearest wish that you could manage to see Henry .
How did we feel when our loved ones made the final walk out of their homes where their family life was. How many of us broke down uncontrollably with feelings of guilt which were not justifiable, but all of us have felt.
Are we able to eradicate the memory of confusion and anger that they felt and projected onto us or do we still remember the rantings which regularly pop into our minds when remembering how they used to be..
It`s good to see you on TP again. Thank you for your condolences.
That was a bad time. My husband went happily into the home but thought I was staying with him. I will never forget the look on his face when I left him there.
I`m pleased to be able to say the bad times are now a dim memory which only surface when something reminds me. I was lucky to have four very happy and contented years when Dhiren lost his paranoia and anger as his dementia progressed and once again was pleased to see me and happy to be with me.
I`m sure your mum did all she could Maggie and you are right to reassure her as much and as often as you can.
We all know the illness is responsible for some of the more hurtful things we have to listen to but even so still take them to heart. I hope your mum has some happy memories too which she can be comforted with.
I know you understand Saffie and thank you for your invite to York. I love York but think I`d be a bit of a party pooper for now.
Maybe next year.
You are right, it`s the sharing of little things which are missed, the experiences and interests based on, in our case, 54 years of being together.
Anne, Dhiren and I did lovely things and shared exactly the same opinions about holidays, outings, politics etc. even though we were so different in personalities.
I don`t go to the Library Anne. In my younger days I was a regular borrower but now my eyes aren`t good enough for books, large print books are too heavy, and I didn`t read for years.
Now I have a kindle and it has been the greatest gift ever. Even so, I wouldn`t belong to a Book Club although I love the idea, because I couldn`t cope with the pressure to finish a book in a certain time.
Pressure is the key word. I think those of us who have been primary carers for a long time are unable to manage pressures or commitments and this is probably what hold us back.