I can’t imagine the frustration of knowing how useless your brother has been, while being told by a relative how helpful he will be. I’d want to strangle them both .., please don’t ... we need to share another drink one day & I’d rather it wasn’t over a table in prison @Palerider
I took my brother fishing once and he commented “at least you get a break from mum by taking me ..”. He was serious. One part of me just wanted to slap him, but the other part realised that yes .. it was a break
I can only hope some fairy godmother casts a spell on your brother & makes him step up to the plate. I’ll be forever grateful that mine did in the end. Although mine at least accepted that he wasn’t doing anything & supported me
You just don’t get to “live your life” in this, you put it on hold & try not to think about it
That said, you will gradually be able to visit with your mum as her son & not her carer. You will always be her carer, making sure everything possible is done for her best possible life, but you can gradually become her best friend again
Very true, it all gets very intense on some days, and I truly resent the fact my brother surfaces and just strolls in, having not been seen or heard from in eons. I have to be fair to him though he did go along with the new care home and support it -after first trying to undermine it.
I am feeling a bit edgy this week and not sure why, maybe because there is alot still to do in terms of selling up and finding a new home. Back to work tomorrow, that will distract me