I didn't realise the home was just 'residential'. Yet you mention other residents wandering at night so presumably they have dementia too.Well I have met up with the social worker today at the CH and was taken a bit by the feedback she gave me, which was old news but seems to have been dwelt on by the CH manager. At the end of the day the CH is for residential care only and not registered for higher levels of care.
This is as a result of mum weilding her stick a few weeks ago and becoming agressive with one of the care workers as she was sundowing and wandering at night, which most of the residents do. However, the CH are not registered for nursing/EMI care and so a decision will be made as to whether mum can stay in the CH she is in currently or moved to a nursing/EMI CH. I can't comment further as I am not there all the time and when I visit it is only for 30 mins to an hour and I don't see her when she sundowns. To be fair the CH have tried to see if they can get mum to settle.
I'm upset about it, but there's not much I can do. Waiting for a decision tomorrow on how things will be managed
To be honest, I think your mum HAS settled. A lot of the time she is fine and she seems to enjoy interacting with others (mostly!) But if she is at the 'top end' of what they feel they can cope with, a move now might be a good idea. None of us know what the future holds - your mum may become more aggressive at times or she may become more compliant as the disease progresses. I was really fortunate with mum's CH although I didn't realise the significance when I moved her there. They actually take a complete range of people, from non-dementia residents, right through those with quite bad behavioural problems, all sorts of nursing care and even end of life. It was only after reading of others on TP having to move their PWD that I realised I'd 'dropped lucky'.
Will you get any choice of alternate homes?