Thanks everyone After a further two days of battling through work I am still feeling dreadful, woke this morning very dizzy and nauseus, whatever bug this is, it isn't shifting easily, not to mention I had two patients repeatedly sneezing and coughing all over me, one of which was query influenza, but turned out to be a nasty viral throat infection (most likely). So with some reluctance having resolved to go on the work night out tonight I have had to cancel my place as I generally feel like s**t. My only saving grace is that I have missed this years party due to illness and not dementia, which I suppose is a start to this 'new normal'. Besides I could not have sustained the drinking of alcohol for over several hours or more and remained upright as matters stand, sad but true Mum now has a caseworker SW and called me to say she was going to review and assess mum this week (which took place yesterday). I didn't attend the review, but she will update me on her assessment next Monday. I am stalling completion of the SS forms purposely so that we all get Christmas out of the way before sorting out finances and funding. Need to see the solicitors to take advice and possibly instruct them to act on mums behalf with wrt the equity release problem. There has been mention of a disregard, but I am not holding my breath, and even if there was I would still have to sell mums house and put her money into a Trust fund for her, however much is left, to get rid of the debt (act in her best interests). Its all going to get messy for a while until matters are sorted, but I will do what is asked of me.