Sorry it seems the home are not keeping you as informed of changes with Dhiren as you'd like Sylvia. I sometimes think that an appointed relative should be allowed to write in the daily notes too for people in care homes as they can give so much insight into the person and then things which might be overlooked by staff are brought up at handover because they are written down.
I'm sure your increased presence at the home will help Sylvia. Reading your thread reminded me of a paralysed man I nursed many years ago whose wife spent hours at his bedside. The care he got was excellent but her presence really helped us to nurse this man who we couldn't speak to because he'd had a severe stroke - she taught us who he was and trusted us to care for him. Her watchful eye was an enabler to us and I'm sure yours is too. I hope your next visit relieves some of your anxieties.
I'm sure your increased presence at the home will help Sylvia. Reading your thread reminded me of a paralysed man I nursed many years ago whose wife spent hours at his bedside. The care he got was excellent but her presence really helped us to nurse this man who we couldn't speak to because he'd had a severe stroke - she taught us who he was and trusted us to care for him. Her watchful eye was an enabler to us and I'm sure yours is too. I hope your next visit relieves some of your anxieties.