P's Pipe! I know people on here care! Other carers - it's those pen-pushers & politicians! They should all have to do work experience - if they are dealing with dementia carers, they should have to work 1:1, 24/7 with someone with moderate -severe dementia for eight months to a year! Then they just might have an inkling of what they are dealing with, as they process forms!
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Just talked to the CPN. She said hopefully, there would be a vacancy in the next two months, even if they have to start him in their "sister " home in town and then transfer him.
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I'm guessing back end of a frog would put a spring back in your step?
....shame the tunnel is such a long one though.Light at the end of the tunnel
Ah LadyA, that's when you are going to need all of your courage and all of your indomitable spirit to the fore. Any words of comfort I can offer will sound so hollow, but they are wished for you nonetheless. You don't need me to tell you that some of your strength will be gained here from the people who have known you and your dear one for so long and from such as me who are new here and starting on our own journeys through this agonising disease. You are wished SO very much: a speedy entry, finally, for William to long-term care, a resolution for you of sorts and, as I see it, most importantly of all, a time of peace for you. With love. Shelagh x
Thank you Shelagh. I know it is the right thing to do, and it must be done. The CPN told me straight out recently that, no offence to me, but he is not getting the level of care that he needs now here at home. I could not possibly give him the level of care that he needs now by myself, and even having a care assistant coming in once a day is not enough - even if it was increased to twice a day, or more, that still wouldn't be enough to give him the kind of care he needs. He needs the care the nursing home can give him - the stimulation, the company - and the constant prodding with bits of food! Breakfast, mid morning snack, lunch, soup in mid afternoon, tea, snack before bed. Partly it's for the entertainment & social value of going to eat and partly for those with small appetites and who are reluctant to eat - they tend to nibble even small amounts with all the others, several times a day, where they might not sit and eat a good meal. I simply couldn't keep that up on my own. Not to mention all the activities - which are all group activities anyway. The physiotherapy. Can't be done. So, even though he won't like it, and it will take a good while I'm sure for him to settle, it must be done.
Thank you Shelagh. I know it is the right thing to do, and it must be done. The CPN told me straight out recently that, no offence to me, but he is not getting the level of care that he needs now here at home. I could not possibly give him the level of care that he needs now by myself, and even having a care assistant coming in once a day is not enough - even if it was increased to twice a day, or more, that still wouldn't be enough to give him the kind of care he needs. He needs the care the nursing home can give him - the stimulation, the company - and the constant prodding with bits of food! Breakfast, mid morning snack, lunch, soup in mid afternoon, tea, snack before bed. Partly it's for the entertainment & social value of going to eat and partly for those with small appetites and who are reluctant to eat - they tend to nibble even small amounts with all the others, several times a day, where they might not sit and eat a good meal. I simply couldn't keep that up on my own. Not to mention all the activities - which are all group activities anyway. The physiotherapy. Can't be done. So, even though he won't like it, and it will take a good while I'm sure for him to settle, it must be done.